Episode #165: New Years Objectives & Plans


If you realize us in any respect, you realize we LOVE targets! This week, we’re chatting about our targets and plans for 2023, sharing our first e book membership picks of the yr, and we’ve some enjoyable podcast information to share!

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Present Notes:

Hearken to Episode #130: New 12 months, Identical Me to listen to our 2022 targets.

An replace on our 2022 targets:


  • Get pleasure from house extra (archived)
  • Get up early (did for 3 months)
  • Stay guilt-free (nonetheless engaged on)


  • Work on her novel (archived)
  • Work on dry eyes (have gotten higher)
  • Purchase much less junk meals (archived)

-We point out The 12 Week Year by Brian P. Moran 

Our targets for 2023:


  • Work on an enormous artwork mission (and share on the podcast) by the top of the yr 
  • Learn 52 books (and cease studying if not hooked three chapters in)
  • Soar round to totally different genres of books
  • Journey to 1 new place
  • Prioritizing inventive time every single day


  • Work extra on her psychological well being
  • Getting again into health
  • Be extra according to going to remedy
  • Submit her novel to brokers

Podcast adjustments in 2023: 

  • Not taking summers off
  • New kinds of episodes: consolation rewatch episodes + “the right way to” deep dive episodes

Q1 e book membership choices (January-March):

-To get bodily copies of older books, go to thriftbooks.com

Essentially the most enjoyable listener e mail EVER from Michelle: Do you will have any concepts for displaying a classic hanging crystal assortment?  

  • Cling them from a chandelier 
  • Show them in an ornamental bowl
  • Cling them in home windows
  • Put them in a shadowbox
  • Show them in your entrance yard

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Episode 165 Transcript:

Emma: You’re listening to The Lovely Mess Podcast, your cozy consolation hear. If you realize us in any respect, then you realize that we love targets. So this week we’re chatting about our targets and plans for the brand new yr, sharing. Our first e book Membership picks for 2023 and we’ve some enjoyable podcast information to share. 

Elsie: So excited. It’s good to be again. 

Emma: It’s good to be again. I miss our podcast buddies. Though we don’t truly get to speak to them throughout recording or something, however I prefer to envision them round us, hanging out. 

Elsie: Properly we learn the emails each week and we get dms and issues like that from our listeners, so we positively can really feel it if you guys are within the temper to care. Like I all the time really feel like once we come again from a break is all the time like an excellent day within the podcast world. I’m joyful. So earlier than we bounce into it, do you wanna speak just a little bit about Christmas, Christmas break, and New 12 months’s? Something thrilling? 

Emma: Yeah, I don’t know. Like everyone else I’ve had these two weeks the place I used to be like, what day is it? Who is aware of? And truly, even this morning I went to the fitness center considering it was Monday or Wednesday when my group health class was, and as quickly as I acquired there, I used to be prefer it’s Tuesday, what was I considering? What was my plan? So then I simply did one thing else, however I used to be like, all proper, I don’t, I nonetheless don’t know what day it’s, I assume. However anyway, Christmas was superior. Our son acquired a motorbike and many toys and all kinds of little issues, however the huge current from us anyway was his bike, and that was actually cute. At first, he was type of like, I don’t learn about this, as a result of it’s like an open-air, like he simply sits in, it doesn’t have straps. However it does have a deal with that I push it round or his dad, whoever. At first, he was just a little like, I don’t learn about this, however then he acquired into it. So we’ve been pushing him round the home. It’s been type of good this week. So I’ve pushed him exterior just a little bit, however I really feel like if we depart it for a couple of days after which get on it, he’s like apprehensive once more. So it’s in all probability gonna be higher within the spring. However anyway, it was cute and it was a enjoyable Christmas. 

Elsie: Cute. Yeah, we had a magical Christmas. I really feel like we’ve actually Marathoned the Christmas magic this yr. Due to sure conditions in our life. I didn’t begin adorning till just a little after December 1st, which could be very, very late for me. So I felt like we lived an actual individuals Christmas as a result of that’s what regular individuals do. That’s the way it was once we have been rising up. And yeah, like blogger Christmas is like, for instance, this yr we have been carrying Christmas pajamas and once we shot the movies for that little cheese ball snowman and the whole lot, it was August. Goldie was absolutely dressed up with us too and she or he was with us and we like, I believe that’s how it’s to have a mother, a blogger mother. After which I’ve been attempting to have, at the very least simulations of regular life, like regular mother life, and which I like, I all the time take into consideration our mother elevating us with no cellular phone in any respect the entire time. So I simply love placing my cellphone away and being just a little extra old school about it. However we had a magical time. We made a lot of cookies, so many cookies. We did the paper chain. We did a ton of mannequin magic. The little dough decoration kind of issues. Every kind of stuff like that. So it was a really fantastic Christmas and I do should admit I’ve a tiny little bit of a Christmas hangover. Like I’m nonetheless proper just a little bit obsessed about it. I nonetheless can’t cease fascinated with it, however I believe that’s simply how I used to be born. Emma mentioned that in our prime episodes of the yr final yr, there was a variety of like vacation content material, so I do know it’s how a variety of you have been born as nicely.

Emma: Yeah, I’m type of buzzing Christmas songs all yr spherical. That’s simply the kind of individual I’m.

Elsie: I find it irresistible. That’s good. 

Emma: Did you do something for New 12 months’s? 

Elsie: No. Okay, right here’s what we did. I did purchase a lovely floor-length sequin costume on Black Friday, and I used to be so excited to put on it. However then when actual New 12 months’s got here round, we have been like, nah, and we simply stayed in our pajamas and our children needed to remain up till midnight. I don’t know what number of extra years that is gonna final. So we went and acquired them out of their mattress at 8:00 PM after which did a pretend ball drop video. Simply Googling final yr’s ball drop video and simply inform them it’s midnight and it really works each time. It’s so cute. They don’t even discover that it’s the incorrect yr on the display. They have been like bragging. The subsequent day we have been at Nova’s orthodontist and she or he was bragging about staying up till midnight and I used to be like, I ponder if she believes her, however both means. What did you do for New 12 months’s? 

Emma: We hosted a celebration. Yeah, final yr Our buddies, the Houghtons hosted this excellent celebration at their home they usually simply had a tiny child a couple of month in the past, just a little lady. So I type of assumed they will not be internet hosting this yr. So I textual content her and I used to be like, for those who’re not internet hosting, I’d like to host simply this yr. As a result of, I like internet hosting but additionally, I’m joyful to let different individuals host. It’s simply a variety of cleansing and stuff too. So I type of needed to be like, Hey, if that is your factor, I’m not stealing it, I simply would take it over for a yr. Trigger you simply had a child. In order that’s what we did and it was actually enjoyable. So a lot of my buddies got here. Oh, this was attention-grabbing to me, perhaps not, I don’t know, however I set out like a puzzle on the eating room desk. Sort of to have totally different areas in the home that folks might congregate to and chat and eat their snacks and drink and no matter as a result of if everybody’s within the kitchen, I believe it, it may possibly begin to really feel too full and you’ll’t hear one another.

Elsie: Suppose it’s good in several zones to take a seat and speak and to not all be congregated. 

Emma: So I assumed setting the puzzle out would type of be like a sign as a result of I actually solely had snacks within the kitchen. I had a cheese board and just a little dessert board and stuff. So I set out this puzzle and my puzzle entice completely labored. I had so many individuals engaged on the puzzle they usually have been nonetheless having enjoyable and chatting and ingesting, having an excellent time, and other people would type of dip out and in. I did the puzzle for some time after which I’d go speak with different individuals and this and that. After which we additionally had a ball drop kind factor on our film display in our different lounge and afterward, everybody was within the temper to bounce, so we did a variety of dancing. We additionally we’re a type of {couples} the place Trey has a karaoke machine, so generally events find yourself with karaoke and we had that out, but it surely didn’t go that route. This time it simply changed into extra of a dance celebration, in order that was cute. After which I made pizza bagels someday round 1230. After which I went to mattress proper after one. I don’t know the way late individuals stayed, however I went upstairs to take my contacts out trigger my eyes get so dry and I used to be similar to, I believe I’m simply gonna go to mattress. That’s what they did. 

Elsie: Hilarious. I find it irresistible. 

Emma: It was enjoyable. I had a lot confetti to wash up the subsequent day although, price it. However I believe I’ll be discovering confetti for like months from now, within the corners and within the sofa cushions and issues. 

Elsie: So cute. That appears like a really epic New 12 months’s.

Emma: Yeah, it was actually enjoyable. And likewise, I don’t thoughts giving it again to my buddies subsequent yr as a result of like I mentioned, it’s type of a variety of cleansing. I like having individuals over and we’ve a brand new home this yr, so it was lots of people acquired to see it who hadn’t seen it but. In order that was enjoyable. However yeah, I don’t thoughts not internet hosting. I like to go over to somebody’s home and depart afterward, however anyway. 

Elsie: Yeah, positively enjoyable. Okay, so on this episode, we’re gonna discuss our New 12 months’s targets and plans. We’re gonna speak just a little bit about what we’re doing in another way this yr on the podcast. Oh, and we’ve our Q1 e book membership choices to share on the finish. Cool. Okay, so earlier than we go into our 2023 targets, I assumed it might be good to mirror on our 2022 targets from final yr and like how we really feel like we did. Did you will have an opportunity to examine what years have been, do you bear in mind what years have been? 

Emma: Sure. I needed to examine too. Oh, proper. I did fairly good. 

Elsie: Yeah. Okay, so what I had down was take pleasure in our house extra. I believe that what I actually meant once I mentioned that, I don’t bear in mind precisely what I mentioned on the podcast, however I believe what I meant was to take a renovation break, and we positively did that this yr. We completed up our renovation that we had began earlier than final yr and over the vacations final yr. It mainly crashed our holidays and was a studying expertise for me. And after that was over, it took longer than I assumed to wrap up, which is ok. It all the time does. After which we took a pleasant lengthy break and have simply loved dwelling in our house this yr and finished extra stuff with the youngsters And extra concentrate on dwelling the best way we wanna reside as an alternative of all the time being targeted on renovation, which is the way it has been. After which, my second aim was this waking up early aim. And so I did this final yr for, I’d say I made it, I don’t know precisely, however I’d say I made it perhaps three months, like perhaps 1 / 4 or perhaps just a little bit greater than that. I do know I positively didn’t make it to the summer time, so I’ve began doing that once more. I assume I’ll save that, however I. Really feel prefer it was similar to a factor, like a aim that I placed on the shelf after which took it again off. I’ll defend that. There’s nothing incorrect with that each from time to time. Generally it’s type of like a gotta do what you gotta do scenario. After which my third factor that I used to be attempting to concentrate on lesser was like dwelling extra guilt-free. I spend a variety of my life in my very own head, and I don’t know if it’s a part of being a seven on the Enneagram, I don’t know if it’s different issues. The pressures of balancing work and motherhood. Every kind of issues, however this yr I did really feel like I spent much less time on-line in all probability than every other yr in my grownup life, which was cool. I spent much less time evaluating, and I really feel like I spent a variety of time determining for myself like, what even is the purpose. As a result of generally you simply should step again for somebody who’s finished the identical web persona work for thus lengthy, it may possibly turn into type of the place it appears like a entice. In sure burnout seasons, and this previous yr, I used to be in a position to take a break and suppose, what am I attempting to do? What’s the significant half and what’s the half that I might let go? I positively really feel like I’m extra on monitor to being an individual who’s not managed by guilt, which feels good.

Emma: That’s superior. 

Elsie: Sure. Inform me yours.

Emma: Final yr’s resolutions have been, to work on my novel. Work on my dry eyes, which I’m all the time about, after which purchase much less junk meals. So yeah, for those who’re a longtime listener, you then in all probability know that I used to be in a position to end the primary draft of my second novel, which is my homicide novel. And I are likely to name it handmade homicide. I don’t know what it’ll truly be titled sometime, however that’s simply the way it’s saved on my laptop. Yeah, I completed the primary draft of that and that basically took the entire yr. I like barely completed, I’d say, however I did, in order that’s nice. 

Elsie: Good job. Woohoo. I really feel I can communicate for everybody and say, we’re so happy with you.

Emma: Thanks. And I believe I did work on my dry eyes. I believe it’s a type of issues that I’ve been type of engaged on for years and years now, in all probability like three years. And I can actually inform that truly, the issues that I’ve been doing persistently have made an enormous distinction. Like I truly really feel like my eyes are utterly totally different and higher than they have been like three years in the past. Like I virtually by no means have that factor the place I’m driving and I simply begin getting actually watery eyes and I really feel like I can’t see. I used to get it like fairly typically and it might actually scare me, particularly if I needed to drive at night time. And now I like by no means get that anymore, which is nice. So I really feel prefer it’s a type of issues that you just do like small issues they usually add up over an extended time period. Kinda like carrying sunscreen every single day after which if you’re in your forties you’re like, oh, that truly did make a distinction. However it like takes so lengthy to note any distinction that this little factor that you just’re doing makes, and I truly really feel like my dry eyes are a type of issues in my life. So yeah, I believe I did fairly good on shopping for much less junk meals. I didn’t actually have a measurement. Yeah. That was one among my targets.

Elsie: Oh, that’s humorous. Was it like a particular junk meals or was it common? 

Emma: I believe it was common. I believe a part of it’s this time of yr, that is a part of why I’m towards New 12 months’s resolutions. In some methods, I really feel such as you begin to make targets based mostly on the season you have been simply in, which for me, December is a heavy vacation meals season. Like we simply acquired finished with Thanksgiving. I’m making all kinds of treats for myself, for buddies, for events, internet hosting, and many events. So I really feel like that’s what’s on my thoughts. Whereas like in April, I’m not feeling the identical means. So anyway, so generally I really feel like in January you make targets based mostly on what This autumn was like and it’s like, nicely there’s an entire yr anyway. However I’m not towards new’s resolutions. I simply suppose you need to make targets all yr spherical. And that’s kinda like the way you have been saying you took that aim, you set it again on the shelf and also you’re taking it again down. I believe that type of factor’s completely effective as a result of I believe try to be consistently reevaluating and setting new targets and checking in, ensuring one thing’s nonetheless serving you nicely, like on a regular basis. I don’t suppose January is the one time of yr to do it. 

Elsie: I agree and I assume for transparency’s sake. After I say New 12 months’s targets, I’m truly simply doing my targets for Q1, cuz I do nonetheless consider within the 12-week yr. And that’s a e book that we’ve talked about on the podcast earlier than. When you haven’t learn it, we’ll put it within the present notes. It’s glorious and I believe it helped my productiveness fairly a bit. And I believe that for somebody like me, with my persona, if I believe I’ve the entire yr to do one thing, I’ll do much less within the first quarter. In order that’s the rationale why. All the pieces that’s a aim of mine and now it’s actually only for the subsequent few months after which no matter occurs after that, I’m not apprehensive about it proper now. 

Emma: Yeah. I’m type of the identical.

Elsie: It doesn’t matter the way you construction it. I really feel our listeners are in all probability all nodding alongside and on the identical web page, like we’re not too apprehensive about whether or not or not like targets are good or not. No matter. You know the way lots of people have like scorching takes about that stuff? It’s like simply make it be just right for you. That’s actually all that issues, so do what works for you. If one thing appears like, oh, it is a waste of my power, or it’s simply not productive, or it makes me really feel dangerous, then don’t do it.

Emma: Yeah, positively. 

Elsie: So have you ever set any targets for 2023, Emma? 

Emma: Sure, these are private targets solely as a result of I didn’t put all my work-related targets on the checklist cuz frankly it’s type of boring and our listeners will see a variety of it. If I accomplish them, you then’ll see it cuz it’ll come out. So anyway, in order that’s not very attention-grabbing to me. So these are my two fundamental 2023 targets. One is sort of a long-term, gonna be doing all of it yr factor as a result of it’s type of just like the dry eyes the place it’s type of small issues that add up over time. You gotta preserve doing it. After which one among ’em is extra of a Q1 aim. So the long run all yr round one is, I’m gonna work just a little extra on my psychological well being this yr. Final yr was a fairly robust yr for me. We’ve talked about this on the podcast earlier than. It’s only a robust yr. I believe lots of people are in the identical boat, a variety of totally different causes, blah, blah, blah. However it was a tricky psychological well being yr. So I’m doing quite a lot of issues. Principally attempting to be extra constant about it. So the three fundamental issues that I’m engaged on proper now, and I’ll replace these all year long, however all of them type of ladder up for me in the direction of psychological well being, is I’m getting again into my health routine, which I believe that like cardio for me, I believe is simply an endorphin factor. And I don’t know, man, I’m not a scientist, however I believe it helps, so getting again into that. And I love to do group health, so then I can type of simply zone out and do regardless of the teacher says. And that’s good, so doing. After which, I strive to do this twice every week after which two different instances every week, twice every week, I attempt to go on a stroll exterior. So for me, that’s about contemporary air and sunshine this time of yr.

Generally it’s not that a lot sunshine as a result of it’s a darkish time of yr, however that’s okay. You continue to get the contemporary air, and for me, it’s simply one thing about being exterior is good. I like the outside. I’m not notably like tenting outdoorsy individual, however I do actually prefer to be exterior. So anyway, after which the opposite factor is extra persistently go to remedy. So I’m simply going to e book an appointment each single month. Trigger final yr I’d generally go each month after which I’d miss like two or three months. Principally cuz I’d get busy and I’d really feel like I couldn’t take the day without work of labor. And I’m simply not gonna do this this yr. I’m simply gonna say, you realize what, if I’ve to reschedule a gathering or if one thing doesn’t get finished too dangerous, everybody will be mad at me. I don’t care. I would like to do that. So I’m simply gonna. 

Elsie: Oh yeah, I believe it’s simply as essential as nicely, or perhaps extra essential than every other type of appointment. Yeah, I believe similar to staying on the books is like the important thing, as a result of I’ve additionally had it the place I took a brief break and it changed into an extended break at one level, after which, you need to Restart once more. And I personally favor it to only keep on the books on a regular basis and even on the weeks that I really feel like I don’t have a lot to say it’s nonetheless good that it’s there. You realize what I imply? Yeah. It’s just like the worst factor that occurs is you perhaps discuss your childhood or one thing that you just usually wouldn’t discuss as a lot. That’s the worst factor that may occur. So I believe it’s nice. 

Emma: I believe generally I might really feel like these instances I’m like, oh, nicely I in all probability would’ve been higher off spending my time engaged on our enterprise, or blah, blah blah. However it’s like, you realize what, I’m simply gonna make an appointment for 3 to 4 weeks later, each time I’m there this yr, and simply see how I really feel on the finish of the yr. And it’s not gonna be a waste of time. That’s 12 instances. It’s not that huge of a deal. So I’m simply gonna do this. In order that’s type of my all yr lengthy good job small steps factor. And I mentioned right here in like three months, six months, I’ll reevaluate. I’ll add some extra issues for my psychological well being. I’ll change one thing. No matter I’m needing, I’ll proceed to guage that. However that is what I’m doing proper now. After which my Q1 aim is to submit my novel to brokers. So I’m gonna attempt to polish it just a little bit right into a second draft. It nonetheless in all probability gained’t be like ultimate, ultimate, at the very least to me. However I additionally really feel like I don’t really need it to really feel ultimate. Remaining. Cuz if I ever do get to attach with an incredible agent and or editor sooner or later, which hopefully I do, they’ll in all probability have solutions and issues that I ought to change anyway. So I type of wanna polish it up in a spot the place I’m prepared to indicate it, however not so polished that I really feel cagey about altering it, perhaps even altering it in main methods as a result of I wanna keep type of open to it. So, I’m gonna attempt to polish it up this quarter. In order that’s three months. Someday within the subsequent three months, I’m gonna be sending it off to some brokers who I’ve talked to previously, literary brokers, and see what they suppose and go from there. So right here it goes. 

Elsie: Find it irresistible. These are nice targets. So I’ve your targets, three or 4 targets. Yeah, so my first aim is only a private aim. I’ve been engaged on this huge artwork, we’ll name it an artwork mission. It’s a mission. I’ve been engaged on a private mission. It’s now my second yr, and I’ve been all the time type of like, Not able to share it but since I began, however it’s my aim to have the ability to share it on the podcast by the top of this yr, which signifies that I’ll must be just about finished to be ok with that.

So I believe that I do want, I profit from a timeline. I simply did a type of persona strengths assessments. Did you get that? I emailed it to you. 

Emma: I did. I took it.

Elsie: Oh, you probably did it. Oh, okay. Properly, let’s discuss that in a future episode cuz that’ll be enjoyable. That was one among our requests. In any case, so I did the strengths take a look at and one among my prime 5 strengths that I found is that I thrive on deadlines, which I had no thought about, but it surely does make sense that it’s like if there’s no deadline, then it’s two totally different sorts of tasks. And so I simply should suppose. I needed to recategorize this mission right into a deadline kind of scenario. So yeah, that’s my first aim. Share it by the top of the yr. If I don’t share it, you guys can ship me hate mail and you’ll unsubscribe, you may depart a nasty evaluate that’s one star. You are able to do something. Please don’t do this. I’m attempting to be accountable, I’m attempting to place myself on the market and actually, that is one thing I’ve talked about it endlessly in my shut buddy circle, however I really feel I would like to only end it at this level, and get it going. So yeah, that’s my first aim after which on Good Reads, I do know there are totally different websites you should utilize to trace your studying. They’re all in all probability superb. I simply use Good Reads as a result of it’s widespread. So I’m doing the 52 books Aim once more. I did it final yr. I positively suppose I can learn greater than 52 books simply, however I made a decision simply to maintain with that aim as a result of isn’t {that a} e book each week? Yeah, that’s a e book each week. It’s nonetheless like loads of books and I simply didn’t really feel like I wanted a much bigger aim. I truly suppose so final yr I acquired to 79 and that’s what I ended with. I used to be so happy with myself to be completely sincere. The one factor that I’ll change for this yr, Is that I really feel like I pressured myself to complete books that I wasn’t having fun with, fairly typically, in all probability two out of each 10. So 20% of the time I really feel prefer it, it’s traumatic if you really feel you’ve already invested time getting like a fourth of the best way by or no matter. That’s normally fourth of the best way or half of the best way is the place I really feel prefer it’s like I do know for certain, that it’s not gonna get higher for me. Which is fairly far in, and in order that’s why I all the time pressure myself to complete it. After which it’s tougher additionally with common books since you’ve heard different individuals discuss how superb it was for them, and also you’re like, I wanna see what they noticed in it that I’m not seeing but. And generally it does come round, however I haven’t heard, or at the very least for me, there haven’t been that many instances when I didn’t like a e book within the first half, and I did prefer it within the second half. So I believe for this yr I’ve realized my lesson and I’m gonna simply don’t have any guilt about quitting just a little bit extra.

Emma: Yeah. I do really feel like that’s one thing that folks will ask me once in a while, I really feel such as you’ve requested me earlier than too. Anybody who’s a reader, I believe we speak with one another. I by no means know what to say when persons are like, do you end books that you just’re not having fun with or not? As a result of I’m type of Within the center on it appears like the identical as you. As a result of I really feel like when individuals ask, what I actually wanna say is are you a brand new reader, or do you actually know what you want? As a result of for those who’re type of new and also you solely have learn one style earlier than, then I’d say perhaps give it a go. As a result of there are books that midway by they do completely change and might shock you. However I additionally suppose for those who’ve been studying for a very long time or for those who’re somebody loopy like Elsie who learn a billion books final yr, you then in all probability know what you want and also you in all probability have already uncovered your self to a variety of totally different genres. 

Elsie: I truly nonetheless contemplate myself a brand new reader as a result of the primary fiction e book I ever learn was like a yr and a half in the past since like highschool. So I do nonetheless contemplate myself a brand new reader, and I do suppose that I nonetheless need to strive issues I wouldn’t have tried. I by no means would’ve tried it, like horny fairy e book if it wasn’t for such as you and the podcast listeners.

Emma: Sherry, I believe it was Sherry. 

Elsie: By no means. Yeah, and Sherry, and actually type of a lot of the web. I by no means would’ve been concerned about that matter. It wasn’t like one among my primary favourite books, but it surely was quite a bit higher than I assumed it might be. I’m nonetheless glad I learn it. Anyway, I do nonetheless wanna strive bizarre issues, however generally it doesn’t repay. And I believe similar to accepting that.

Emma: I additionally suppose it might be an excellent factor. There have been instances I picked up a e book at that time and I used to be like, I’m not into this. After which a yr later it’s nonetheless on my shelf and I’m like, why didn’t I like that? I can’t bear in mind. After which I begin studying it once more. I’m like, that is superior. So I believe it can be the stage in life you’re in. Generally you’re not within the temper for one thing darkish or one thing mental. You realize what I imply? Generally it’s an excellent factor, I believe too.

Elsie: Yeah, one hundred percent. Okay, after which the opposite factor about it, oh, I wanna attempt to bounce round to totally different genres just a little bit higher. I did fairly a bit final yr, however I’d say I stayed fairly persistently on the, I dunno what you name ’em, just like the romantic comedy kind of books. The romantic books. Then the fantasy books and common books. That was like Carnival All I learn. After which a few different issues. And I learn a brilliant outdated e book and I liked it, which I didn’t suppose I might or would. So yeah, I simply wanna strive extra issues that I’m unsure about. I believe that could be a good aim. After which the opposite factor I simply needed to notice and say, that is like I get this query quite a bit and I hate it, is persons are like, do you suppose audiobooks rely as studying? Which, initially, my kids are principally blind. Audiobooks rely as studying. It’s prefer it’s offensive and ableist to ever even counsel that they don’t for that motive. It is dependent upon your way of life. For me, a variety of the studying I do is once I’m driving or sitting within the automobile line or what’s the opposite time. Oh, engaged on organising or tearing down or a variety of our weblog work is issues like that and we make these little rooms and posts and all of that’s like an hour or two of prep and all of these are instances once I’m quote unquote studying, however I wouldn’t be capable of if I have been like committing myself to solely learn from a paper e book. So I simply suppose it’s so snobby and I’m completely towards anybody who says that it doesn’t rely. I imply, it doesn’t matter to me as a result of I rely it. , however I simply, what’s the purpose? 

Emma: I believe it’s, yeah, okay. When you’re of the opinion, cuz I’d put myself on this camp the place I benefit from the expertise of studying a e book and actually I’d go as far as to say I benefit from the expertise of studying paper books. I prefer to flip the pages. I used to have a Kindle, however I didn’t benefit from the expertise of that as a lot. That’s similar to for me, that’s a part of it. However I do suppose it’s fairly snobby and type of narrow-minded to suppose that different methods of experiencing books and literature will not be, I don’t know. I believe anytime you’re asking a query and also you’re type of placing any individual else down, perhaps take a second and take into consideration what you’re about to say, and suppose why? Why do I would like to do this? Am I attempting to make myself really feel higher? Like I’m extra superior? Simply take a second, all of us do this. We wanna suppose we’re superior.

Elsie: I do like paper books and particularly like on an airplane day or there are particular kinds of days once we went on our journey to Palm Springs final yr and we mainly learn the entire time in pool chairs. That kind of factor is the most effective. Like final night time I used to be studying earlier than mattress as a result of my husband needed to look at an annoying TV present and people are all nice. However yeah, I believe that it’s simply the entire, does it rely? It’s like rely for Why? Ew. 

Emma: A Lot of persons are totally different. Studying will be totally different for various individuals. So like get on off your excessive horse of us. 

Elsie: Yeah. One other time I wanna speak concerning the youngsters, their expertise with their Yodas and stuff. Trigger like their audiobook, it’s like they’re going to this point above their age ranges although, and I believe it’s actually good. Even when it’s not technically the identical factor. It’s nonetheless one thing. Anyway, okay, so I set a household aim. So my aim for the yr for my household is to journey to 1 new place. And that is one thing that we simply arrange as a aim for the primary time, however we’re going to, we’re gonna do it yearly. We simply type of have began to comprehend the variety of years that we’ve with our children and for our way of life. One journey a yr to go to a brand new place is probably the most that we wanna decide to. And we nonetheless wanna go to outdated locations. We nonetheless wanna go to our identical buddies in several states and we wanna go to Disney again and again. And the annoying issues that we love to do, we prefer to go to Palm Springs each couple of years. I believe that this aim, We’ll be actually important as a result of we’ll simply be capable of make extra reminiscences. Going someplace one time and having one set of pictures there’s a lot totally different than going to Disney as soon as each two years on your youngsters’ complete childhood. So yeah, I’m enthusiastic about that. I’ll let you know the way it goes after it’s finished. After which aside from that, I simply have down, I’ve this little quote, it’s not likely a quote, but it surely’s written in a variety of my journals and my, like my imaginative and prescient board and stuff. It says inventive work isn’t wasted. And it’s type of like one of many mottos of my life that I reside by. So this yr I simply wanna prioritize inventive time every single day. So I’ve been engaged on my ceramic journey. I’ve been portray once more. I’ve been writing, and there are different issues that I simply wanna strive that I haven’t tried but. So yeah, I actually consider in my core that any kind of inventive work that you just ever do, Whether or not it’s for an hour or a month or a yr isn’t wasted as a result of it should all the time circle again to your life and provide help to on a future mission, and it’s generally it’s if you least anticipate it. It’s one thing that we’ve realized from being DIY bloggers, like the talents that we expect are random, find yourself being truly very helpful. Anyway, that’s all my targets. I’m so enthusiastic about this yr. I really feel like an excellent power for 2023. 

Emma: Yeah, I do too. I’m very hopeful about this subsequent yr. I believe it’s gonna be an excellent one. All proper. So we additionally needed to inform you all about some podcast adjustments for the brand new yr, for 2023. So, primary, which we expect everyone seems to be gonna be enthusiastic about, we hope we won’t be taking summer time off. We tried that final yr and it was nice to have the day without work, but additionally, I don’t know, it glided by actually quick and it simply felt like.

Elsie: It was type of unhappy. We acquired a variety of unhappy emails. 

Emma: Yeah. We acquired a variety of unhappy mail and simply to be clear, simply because if we felt like that was the most effective factor for us, we might nonetheless do it. However after attempting it for a yr, we simply really feel like, you realize what? We’re good. We’re not gonna take the summer time off. In order that’s what we’re gonna do that yr. 

Elsie: We’re including a few new kinds of episodes, which we’re gonna discuss in a second that can assist us document extra episodes in every recording sitting. And I’ve heard occasionally suggestions from our listeners that you just don’t prefer to know that we batch document. And to that, I’d say we actually wouldn’t podcast anymore if we couldn’t batch document. So it’s not an possibility for us to do like a diary of our week and discuss simply what occurred this week. And hopefully, it should make extra sense when we’ve our summer time going up and we’ve a brand new episode each week and it’ll really feel price it. I believe that there are simply various kinds of podcasts and podcasts that do like information or present occasions or issues like that ought to perhaps document each week or of the second. However that’s actually not what we’re attempting to do in any respect. Thanks and I additionally wanna say we had an awesome quantity of assist for taking the summer time off. However the motive we determined to not do it once more is that we really feel like one of the simplest ways for us to develop our podcast and one of the simplest ways for it to type of serve all of our targets is for it to be actually constant. So we’re giving extra consistency and we positively respect your assist. It’s been, and I really feel like our podcast listeners are probably the most supportive. 

Emma: Oh yeah, positively probably the most supportive and probably the most engaged, I’d say, a part of our viewers. We simply hear from you guys quite a bit, so it’s actually enjoyable. So we’re excited for that and we’ll be right here this summer time. It’s simply right here’s the brand new episode varieties we’re gonna strive partly as a result of we’re gonna document extra episodes this yr than we did final yr. 

Elsie: Okay. Let me announce. So the primary new kind of episode, and we’re gonna have the primary one up in two weeks. So it’ll be on the finish of this month, referred to as the Consolation Rewatch sequence. So we’re going to do a rewatch sequence. We are going to attempt to inform you upfront what they’re going to be. However no guarantees, like with the e book membership. However what we’re gonna do is we’re gonna do complete episodes about consolation motion pictures, as a result of a few of our hottest matters that we come again to time and again are motion pictures and particularly like speaking about just like the interiors and films and the texture and like the way it can encourage our on a regular basis lives and issues like that. We’ve got been asking on your consolation request on Instagram and please e mail us anytime. [email protected]. And particularly after you hear the primary one and also you type of know the format, ship us your request cuz that could be a huge a part of how we’re gonna fill the summer time. And likewise we’re gonna take just a little bit much less breaks like we’re not gonna take off like Labor Day and Memorial Day. Simply in a position to have just a little bit extra consistency by having extra of those Consolation Rewatch episodes. After which the opposite kind that we need to do known as the Deep Dive episodes. So the place that is coming from is that there are a variety of matters that we’ve talked about again and again and over on the podcast, perhaps 30 instances, however there’s not an episode for it. So it turns into actually arduous to search out for our listeners. So we’re gonna do an entire episode on cash, An entire episode on adoption. An entire episode. What are among the ones we had? Oh, the curated closet. We’re gonna do an entire episode. 

Emma: On making a five-year plan? 

Elsie: Sure. Making a five-year plan is definitely our first one which we’ve developing. We predict that simply having, extra titles might be cleaner. It truly jogs my memory a variety of early running a blog in early running a blog I’d simply be like, listed below are 10 issues that I did this week they usually’re all utterly random. Three of ’em are essential and 7 of ’em are silly. That’s how we’ve been podcasting. However then it’s such as you’re not likely constructing an archive that folks can use and discover worth in later aside from binging. And so I believe that’ll be good for us. And we type of like geeking out on topics. You guys in all probability know. We’ve got our issues that we like to essentially get into. So yeah, that’ll be enjoyable and we will certainly do listener request for that as nicely. 

Emma: We hear quite a bit from you that you just prefer to re-listened to episodes, and so we really feel like these deep dive or the right way to kind episodes may be one thing the place if the episode comes out and also you’re like, oh, you realize what, like five-year plan, I’m not within the temper, or I’m not in an area in my life proper now the place I wanna do this. For no matter motive, however six months later you may really feel like, oh, I’m within the temper or I’m in a spot in my life the place I’m prepared for that content material. I wanna re-listen to it. Wait a second. What episode was it? I believe they have been additionally speaking about their grandma in that episode. Let me see. So now it’ll be extra clear so that you can discover, like that one episode, that factor that you just may be eager to re-listen to. That’s a part of the thought too, behind it. In all probability simply one other means of claiming what else you mentioned, which is like an archive of helpful content material.

Elsie: Yeah, 110%. We would like you to have the ability to discover the episodes. Oh, Emma, do you wanna share the Q1 e book membership choices? 

Emma: Sure, completely. Sure. So these are for January by March. There are 4 of ’em, two fiction and two nonfiction, and as ordinary, we don’t completely know which of them we’re gonna do first or final. So simply no matter sounds attention-grabbing to you, for those who’re gonna be part of us. Go on in, as a result of we gained’t do them in one of many subsequent episodes by any means, however in all probability like three or 4 episodes, we’ll begin with one. So, the 2 fiction books are this Time Tomorrow by Emma Straub, and I’ve learn two of her different novels earlier than and liked them. I like this creator. I additionally observe her on Instagram. I’m type of a fan lady and this one I haven’t learn it but, however I’ve heard has just a little little bit of time journey. So I believe it’s gonna be enjoyable and totally different and I’m actually excited for it. The opposite one I don’t actually know very a lot about it. It’s one which Elsie placed on the checklist, so I’m actually excited. It’s referred to as Cleopatra and Frankenstein by Cocoa Millers. 

Elsie: Okay, right here’s what I learn about it. I purchased it as a result of it has an irresistibly stunning cowl. If you see the quilt, you’ll perceive the irresistibly stunning espresso desk for the novel cowl. I’ve additionally seen it on lots of people’s prime books checklist lately as a result of it’s like the brand new yr simply occurred and other people have been doing their prime books. I do know it’s by a British creator and I do know that it’s a love story about two individuals I believe named Cleo and Frank, who I believe they’ve an age hole and I believe it’s type of a interval, like an early century factor. That’s in all probability not the most effective synopsis, however I’m excited to learn it and it’s been on my checklist for thus lengthy, that’s why I put it on there. I used to be like, I actually wanna learn this e book that’s been on my present shelf all of final yr. 

Emma: I like a love story, so I’m intrigued. After which our two non-fiction picks for this quarter are Suppose Once more by Adam Grant. When you’ve by no means heard of Adam Grant, you need to begin following him on Instagram or Twitter, no matter you prefer to be on. He’s so cool and I’m very enthusiastic about this e book. 

Elsie: I like Adam Grant. I’m so, I don’t know why I haven’t learn this e book but. It doesn’t make sense cuz that is precisely the kind of e book I’m into. He’s the individual for those who observe him on Instagram, he posts the tweets, prefer it’s similar to his tweets. However then they’re all the time just a little little bit of a barely totally different pastel colour because the background. And folks repost them an insane quantity as a result of I really feel like his complete factor is like thoughtfulness. And type of not shopping for into cliche or… what’s the phrase? Like tribal habits. And anyway, he’s been interviewed on Sharon’s podcast and he looks like a really attention-grabbing individual I’m excited to learn this e book.

Emma: Sure, me too. After which the final nonfiction you’d choose for this quarter is an oldie however a goodie. So for those who’ve by no means learn it or if it’s been some time, you need to be part of us. It’s Large Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert. 

Elsie: We picked this one particularly as a result of we needed to place a reread on. It was between two books and I gained’t say what the opposite one was cuz we’re in all probability gonna do it afterward within the coming quarter. I like this e book. I keep in mind that I learn it at, I believe the very starting of the quarantine, which is a really unusual time to learn a e book. I simply downloaded it once more and noticed that it’s solely a five-hour audiobook, which for those who learn audiobooks could be very brief. It’s one thing you may positively learn in a few days, if not perhaps in the future relying on what you’re doing. So, very brief, and I liked it the primary time I bear in mind we talked about it in a really, very early podcast episode. 

Emma: So I’m excited to reread it. I learn it a very long time in the past, perhaps like, I don’t bear in mind when it got here out, however I wanna say it was like 2018. So it’s been some time. I’m very excited.

Elsie: There’s nobody who doesn’t like this e book. Oh. Additionally similar to just a little tip if you would like a bodily copy. I type of needed one simply trigger like why isn’t this on my shelf? Go to thrift books as a result of older books like this are the kind of books that you would be able to get on there for very, very low-cost. So anytime there’s like a e book that was actually, actually common like 5 to 10 years in the past, that’s the factor to purchase on thrift books.

Emma: That’s an excellent tip. 

Elsie: The e book membership goes your personal tempo, learn no matter you need. Once we come to an episode the place we’re speaking about it, we’ll let you realize in the event that they’re spoilers. And a variety of instances there’s not. A number of instances, we attempt to do it the place it’ll make, you continue to wanna learn the e book much more. It’s simply type of like probably the most low-maintenance e book membership I believe that you would be able to have. However it makes me joyful as a result of I do really feel like we’re having like a gaggle exercise to do collectively. 

Emma: Yeah. Truthfully, I’m in a real-life e book membership and I really feel prefer it’s an identical factor the place half of us learn the e book, and half don’t. However you may nonetheless benefit from the group. It’s an excellent time. Don’t fear about it.

Elsie: Okay. Earlier than we go, we’ve probably the most enjoyable listener query ever. 

Emma: I believe this was an e mail, and that is from listener Michelle, and she or he says, Do you will have any concepts for displaying a classic hanging crystal assortment? I inherited my grandmother’s assortment of pink and white crystals. She liked them dearly, however by no means displayed them. She was a conservative southern woman and was afraid that friends would see her crystals and suppose she was into the occult. It appears foolish now. I do know. It’s so cute. Michelle says it appears foolish now, however I respect her emotions on the time. I’d prefer to show the crystals in a means that reclaims their pleasure. I believe grandma would love that. Any concepts? 

Elsie: To start with, I like this. I despatched a clarifying e mail to Michelle and simply requested can I see an image of them. I simply needed to ensure I knew. So what she despatched me again, actually appears to be like like crystals that might come off of a chandelier or the little ones that you’d purchase, that you can grasp one among them like in a window. Although with tons and many sides. So yeah, they appeared like a spread like that, and they’re pink and clear. 

Emma: Great. Great. Yeah, it appears like an incredible assortment. And truthfully, I’ll begin as a result of these have been two issues. I didn’t get the clarifying image. So sensible. Elsie, good factor you emailed her cuz I used to be like hanging crystals. I really feel like perhaps these are the kind of issues which might be gonna go on a chandelier. So I used to be like, I ponder if she might purchase a chandelier. That has hanging crystals, that’s like perhaps in disrepair or type of perhaps it’s cheaper cuz it’s not likely very fascinating. And he or she might take off the items which might be on it and placed on these. So then it’s type of a DIY slash reclaiming the body of it if that makes any sense. Kinda like recovering a lampshade. You’re not likely making the entire lamp, however you’re giving it new life right here. So I used to be considering one thing like that may be cool if she needed to have it as a chandelier in her house, or I additionally thought hanging them in home windows all through her home could be type of particular. In my thoughts, I’m like, meaning like just a little piece of your grandma’s in each room, like each window that you just stroll previous and it glitters by the crystals.

Elsie: I like that.

Emma: It’s not truly within the crystal, however the reminiscence of her and stuff, you realize what I imply? 

Elsie: The sure type of home windows which have the little, I don’t know what you name it, the little piece of {hardware} within the center between the 2 pans like older home windows have that quite a bit. That may be good. I had written it down, so I positively have seen on eBay crystal chandeliers which might be stripped from all their crystals. That’s positively a factor that you would be able to purchase for a small value and make one thing. I believe it sounds sophisticated, however very, it does enjoyable. I’d counsel perhaps a candle chandelier, simply so that you don’t have to love mess with {the electrical} one thing. Then you may grasp it wherever and you’ll simply get these little distant candles. I believe candle chandeliers are so fairly anyway, however yeah, I believe one in each window might be the transfer. I believe it’s so candy and particular and you can simply have one hanging there and you then’ll get the little glow lights in your partitions and it’ll make you consider your grandma, which nothing might be sweeter than that. Then the final thought I had was to exit, go to the flea market, purchase your self a latte and choose the prettiest classic bowl you could find and simply put them in your espresso desk with all of your fairly books after which this bowl together with your grandma’s crystals. And I additionally suppose that might be a pleasant option to have them, as a result of for me, my youngsters love taking part in with crystals. I’ve an enormous crystal assortment from earlier than I had youngsters and after they discovered it, oh my God, it’s like higher than toys. In order that’s enjoyable. 

Emma: Crystals are fairly and anytime somebody has a bowl of crystals out on a espresso desk displayed, I have a tendency to the touch them too. Except it’s clear you’re not purported to. However I really feel like that’s type of fairly apparent, like go forward and contact these. Transfer. I had that on my checklist too. I had two others that I don’t really feel, I really feel like those we’ve listed are the methods to go, however I had two others that have been simply totally different concepts in case she had quite a bit within the assortment and she or he desires to place them in home windows after which has extra. So it’s type of like, I need a couple of concepts. So the opposite two have been a shadow field they usually wouldn’t essentially be hanging, however they might be displayed in there. So you can have type of an artwork show of a few of your favorites or among the extra totally different shapes. After which the final one and this one, I don’t know, as a result of it appears like these crystals are actually, actually particular to her. So I don’t know, however I simply thought I’d throw it on the market. I used to go on walks in my outdated neighborhood and there was this one home that had all these oddly formed huge crystals. They’re not even actually, all of ’em have been crystals. A few of them have been similar to coloured glass items within the entrance backyard mattress. It was like a crystal backyard.

Elsie: I do know precisely which home you’re speaking about. The one which has type of just like the little artwork gallery. Like they make it like a dwelling, what do you name it, like a low-key out of doors artwork gallery and there’s similar to totally different stuff in there on a regular basis. It’s very tactile, it’s like very touch-friendly, kid-friendly. I believe it’s like very, Inspiring and funky prefer it makes the entire neighborhood cooler. 

Emma: It actually does, and I believe this actually is dependent upon your neighborhood as a result of on this explicit neighborhood, there’s a variety of fairy gardens, there’s a variety of little free libraries. So I believe it is vitally clear to individuals when. You possibly can contact issues however not take them. And when you may contact issues they usually can transfer round and that’s okay. So I believe you’d wanna make it clear by some means with the best way you displayed it, that you would be able to contact these, however don’t take them. I believe that that may be finished fairly simply. You might additionally, relying on how your home is ready or your house, you may wanna even do it in a planner field or one thing that simply makes it clear like it is a show so that you can take a look at and luxuriate in, however please don’t contact them or take them. Sort of as much as you. It relies upon, on the vibe you’re eager to go for and stuff. However yeah, similar to you say l see, it’s like a particular factor. And I additionally love the thought of, when you will have a group or one thing that’s particular to you and let others see it and also you additionally wanna clearly deal with your issues and ensure they don’t get broken, particularly in the event that they’re household heirlooms. However I don’t know, it makes it actually particular to me once I get to, ultimately share my assortment with others. I believe it’s actually enjoyable.

Elsie: Okay. Properly, you’re gonna should tell us which one you find yourself doing and ship us a follow-up image cuz now we’re all invested on this crystal assortment.

Emma: We’re Michelle.

Elsie: However yeah, I believe it’s very cool. Thanks a lot for listening. We might be again subsequent week with our reactions to 2023 development predictions.