This week, Elsie is sharing an enormous private replace (a yr within the making)!
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Present Notes
Elsie is transferring!!!
Why we determined to maneuver:
-We now not have a profession purpose to dwell in Nashville
-One in all our dad and mom had a well being scare
-To see Emma and Oscar extra
Favourite issues concerning the new home:
-Curb enchantment, seems like a film home
-Hearth within the kitchen
-A lot of potential
Very first thing Elsie purchased:
Lighting fixtures (classic and new). Listed here are some hyperlinks: Metal Lanterns / Hand Sconce / 3-Light Chandelier / Round Chandelier
What we’ll miss most about our dwelling in Tennessee:
-Associates
–Hewitt Garden and Design Center
-Our hidden library and library eating room
What Emma is happy for:
-Working collectively
-Being a extra current aunt
-Recording the podcast collectively
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Episode 171 Transcript:
Elise: You’re listening to The Stunning Mess Podcast, your cozy consolation pay attention. This week I’m sharing an enormous private replace a yr within the making, so seize a cup of espresso or tea and prepare to listen to the lengthy model of when and why I’m transferring again to my hometown in Missouri.
Emma: Dum, dum, dum, dum.
Elise: I can’t imagine it. Emma was simply saying, we really feel like we’ve got been speaking about this for a yr as a result of it was like a really slow-coming determination on our half and one thing that we’ve been engaged on for a very long time. However we needed to attend till it was very official to share it right here. So yeah, it feels unusual to lastly speak.
Emma: Yeah, and sadly we already named an episode, “Oops, I’m transferring once more” so we are able to’t reuse that, but it surely’s true as soon as once more.
Elise: Sure, completely. So, one thing that I spotted about myself type of lately, though it’s been happening my total life, is that I’m obsessive about change, completely continually. So the longest I’ve ever lived in any dwelling was for 4 and a half years the place we lived in our first dwelling in Tennessee the place we adopted our children and all the things. In order that’s the longest I’ve ever lived anyplace since I moved out from my father or mother’s home. However more often than not I’ve moved yearly or two, which I don’t like that about myself. I don’t condone it as a great way of life. I don’t suppose it’s wholesome, and it’s not what I need for my youngsters sooner or later, however I’m admitting that it’s true. And that it’s one thing that has all the time been, I’ll all the time be only a one that has plenty of itch for change. So I assume I’m gonna have to determine a strategy to categorical that in different methods.
Emma: Yeah, I believe expressing in different methods is an efficient strategy to put it. Trigger I really don’t suppose it’s unhealthy to crave change and to wish to transfer and to need a contemporary begin. I believe that’s actually like fairly regular. I simply suppose your life’s now at a spot, you already know, you was once like after highschool and stuff, you’re single and then you definately get married and it’s simply you two, after which, you already know, however, and yeah, so now you might have much more folks to think about. It impacts much more folks for those who transfer now than it used to, and so naturally I believe may need to vary considerably, however I wouldn’t say it’s unhealthy to crave change and to need a contemporary begin. I believe that’s actually fairly regular. I simply suppose there are plenty of methods to precise it.
Elise: Yeah. And I do need my youngsters to have a childhood dwelling that they bear in mind as their childhood dwelling, not like 10. I like absolutely admit that. However anyway, we nonetheless are the place we’re proper now. So let’s inform this entire story as a result of I do know from simply having informed my shut buddies over the previous yr, I do know all of the questions persons are gonna ask and there are such a lot of legitimate questions. So to start out out the story, why we determined to maneuver, cuz the home we dwell in now, we fully adore it. There’s nothing about it apart from the truth that it’s not previous, there’s nothing about it I might change, I like this dwelling. I’m actually pleased with the tasks we did. I added all my fake fireplaces and bookshelves and the hidden library, which is like my soulmate venture of my life. And we adore it right here and we’ve got nothing unhealthy to say about Nashville. Not one single factor, not even the bachelorettes. Nothing to say unhealthy. We’ve cherished our entire eight years right here and I believe that we simply realized after we moved right here through the Covid period, that Jeremy’s profession had modified. So we moved right here initially cuz my husband was engaged on his profession in songwriting. And he did plenty of songwriting. He did plenty of the songwriting that you just watch on television. In the event you see a film like, what’s that film with Woman Gaga? Have you learnt what I imply? And Bradley Cooper.
Emma: Yeah, A Star is Born.
Elise: Sure. Like that form of factor the place folks like to sit down down with a guitar and really write a music collectively. Folks in Nashville try this on a regular basis, and Jeremy tried that, however it’s simply not how his inventive mind works. So he hasn’t been doing that for some time, however he would form of work nearly with folks and he was nonetheless songwriting just about since I met. However over the past couple years, he began this different enterprise, which is a digital instrument enterprise. So it’s nonetheless in music, but it surely’s fully completely different from songwriting. However he makes like the entire pattern music for it and stuff just like the demos that they launched to show about their devices. So he’s very fulfilled, he’s doing his dream and he’s now not songwriting anymore. So as soon as we began to appreciate that, we have been like, you already know, we don’t want to remain in Nashville and our children are on the age the place if we’re going to go away, we wanna take into consideration that now. We don’t wanna wait too lengthy as a result of I do know all dad and mom have completely different opinions, however lots of people have informed me to attempt to get it accomplished as early as attainable after which keep settled by way of their older years of college if attainable. So anyway, final Christmas I bought actually bored the week after Christmas, as all of us do. And I used to be sitting on the pink home and I believe Jeremy was like working within the bed room on his songs for his firm. And I used to be like on Zillow and I do know all of it goes hill from right here. And I fell into this factor of, for days researching like mainly each metropolis within the US the place I would wanna dwell, and, rapidly I needed to maneuver to New York. I discovered a neighborhood after which I simply fell down this rabbit gap that was months lengthy the place we have been significantly contemplating transferring to New York. I bear in mind after I informed Emma we have been within the car parking zone of Shake Shack and she or he was like, effectively, I assume I’ll get pleasure from visiting you in New York she felt prefer it was simply inevitable.
Emma: Often when Elsie says she’s doing one thing, I imply, in all probability your husband feels completely different, however I’m simply type of like, effectively, I assume she’s doing that, so yeah. I’m not gonna speak her out of it. So, you already know, it’s simply taking place.
Elise: Yeah, we discovered this cute, like I’m obsessed, excellent little neighborhood. And we visited there, we had a realtor, we did like all these steps and my husband was, Into it a bit bit, however he was manner, manner, far more hesitant than I used to be. I used to be undoubtedly the one who was steamrolling the scenario a bit bit and he was considering it over nonetheless, I assume. After which final summer season we had a scenario the place considered one of our dad and mom had a well being scare that was very severe and really scary, and I might say life-changing in identical to, it was a second for me to appreciate that this a part of our life isn’t going to final endlessly and that I haven’t been spending the type of time with my dad and mom and effectively with my in-laws and my dad and mom that I wish to spend. The opposite factor that additionally was changing into clear at the moment is that Emma has a bit child and I used to be seeing him like 5 instances a yr after I felt like I may very well be seeing him like 50 instances a yr or 100 instances a yr. Once I see him, he doesn’t actually acknowledge me, which is like laborious for me as a result of clearly, I wanna be an enormous a part of his life, however that’s not attainable in a day-to-day manner if you dwell in one other state. So possibly once they’re a bit older it’s a bit bit simpler, however that’s one other consideration I used to be considering over. So, yeah, contemplating transferring to New York was like a dream within the metropolis manner, however in a household manner, it was in all probability gonna make our struggles even worse.
Emma: Yeah as a result of additionally there are not any direct flights from Springfield, Missouri, our hometown, the place each her dad and mom dwell in her in-laws and likewise me, to New York. The closest metropolis you must go to for a direct flight I believe is Bentonville.
Elise: There are just about no direct flights anyplace apart from Florida and one or two different locations.
Emma: Which, it’s not the tip of the world to have a connecting flight, that’s actually not an enormous deal. However it’s a time of yr when there’s unhealthy climate. It simply will get dicey the place it will probably type of mess up your journey or make it the place your journey is longer, however you see your loved ones even much less, you already know what I imply? It’s simply one other issue.
Elise: So anyway, I’m gonna type of simply skip over the New York half, however I needed to acknowledge it cuz it was type of an enormous a part of the yr. I informed in all probability dozens of folks that we have been transferring there and we have been very severe about it for some time, but it surely wasn’t a long-lasting plan.
Emma: Nicely, what I believe’s humorous about that’s Elsie and I’ve been to New York Metropolis many instances for work over time and for enjoyable. New York is clearly a very cool metropolis. Clearly, it’s very well-known. It’s in each single film ever of all time, mainly. So it’s actually cool, but it surely’s by no means a spot that both of us was ever simply dying to dwell in New York. I believe everybody has a buddy who’s like, huge cities are the place for me. And we have been by no means that manner. In order that’s only one factor that I type of like about you is that you’ll open up your coronary heart to one thing that you just beforehand have been like, no. Like Elsie type of has no downside being like, oh, I used to be incorrect about that. And now I adore it. And I believe that’s type of like a enjoyable factor about you.
Elise: Thanks. Yeah, no, I needed to dwell in a Victorian home in Brooklyn, which is fairly completely different from residing in like skyscraper in Manhattan or no matter. However yeah, it was unusual as a result of I by no means thought, however now I believe like that’s undoubtedly my coast. Like if ever sooner or later, you already know? I’m very drawn to that a part of the nation proper now. At this level, I’m simply gonna like go to there 100 instances as a result of it’s a excellent spot too. Anyway, so when our dad and mom had the well being scare, and so my husband and I had a heart-to-heart. It was after we had gone on a household journey together with his household in the summertime. We do it like yearly for the 4th of July, and we have been driving dwelling and we had a heart-to-heart the place he stated, would you think about transferring again to Springfield? And up till that time, in that entire eight years we had lived in Tennessee, I had plenty of factors the place I used to be like, possibly we must always transfer again to Springfield as a result of there’s like, you possibly can’t dwell away out of your entire household with out having these factors from time to time. It’s identical to regular. However he had by no means had that earlier than, he simply was very certain that he didn’t wanna transfer again.
Emma: He’s not an enormous mover both. He’s type of a settle-down type of particular person, you already know?
Elise: Yeah. So for no matter purpose, as quickly as he stated it, I already knew that it was taking place, and I felt like my first response was anger as a result of I felt like I wasn’t getting a selection. So I stated I simply want to consider it for a few weeks. So we bought dwelling and I did my entire course of, which I assume I can clarify my Stalkery dwelling course of. I did this in New York too, however I went on Zillow for our hometown and I mainly undergo each single avenue and have a look at each single home even when a home isn’t on the market, there’s like previous footage from 5 years in the past or one thing of the final time it was on the market generally like 10 years in the past. And so I did that, there’s just about like one neighborhood in Springfield that we knew we preferred, after which one different avenue. So just about all these homes, I’ve seen them if it’s attainable too, after which we went there in particular person a few weeks later and did some actually intense strolling excursions and driving by, of each single dwelling. And we wrote down all of the addresses.
Emma: Couple of break-ins too. Simply kidding.
Elise: That’s humorous. And one thing I knew straight away was, I knew that we have been in all probability gonna transfer there. I used to be simply in a part of getting towards the acceptance of it. As a result of clearly, I wish to, I like being round Emma and having the ability to do our work collectively as a substitute of getting to continually journey or be actually restricted. Being round my nieces and nephews, there are a ton of them, are additionally all my youngsters’ cousins. That may be a actually huge factor for us. After which being round our dad and mom is an enormous factor. And I nonetheless have a grandma who resides, which is like the perfect factor ever. Anyway, I used to be open to it, however I used to be simply looking for a strategy to trick my mind into not being unhappy as a result of I used to be actually connected to the thought of transferring to this sure neighborhood in New York and I had gotten too far alongside and it like emotionally invested. So I spotted {that a} home popping up that was quote-unquote excellent for what we have been in search of in all probability wasn’t going to occur due to the actual property this previous yr. Anybody who’s been home buying is aware of, it’s just like the stock is nearly nothing. Like homes simply aren’t popping up after which when a great one does pop up, it often sells instantly. So we began considering creatively as a result of as soon as we realized we have been gonna transfer, we have been like, okay, effectively we have to transfer both over Christmas or over summer season break due to youngsters’, colleges, there’s no different time to maneuver and that’s necessary. So, I began doing letter writing. In the event you’ve ever heard of this, I’ll clarify what it’s in case you couldn’t think about that anybody would ever do that after which I’ll clarify precisely what we did. So I had heard about a few success tales previously, however actually, for probably the most half, it doesn’t work. And I knew that however I additionally felt prefer it was the one possibility I had in the intervening time, and I needed to be proactive and do one thing as a result of simply ready and seeing that there have been no homes that we’d even have a look at for months and months and months and months that’s discouraging. So I used to be simply looking for a strategy to transfer it ahead in my very own manner.
Emma: Yeah. Plus what have you ever bought to, you already know, would possibly as effectively.
Elise: So we’d write letters. I believe we wrote a complete of both 4 or 5, I can’t bear in mind. So how I chosen the homes was just about simply by location and understanding if the home was like some homes, we might see previous footage from the final time it bought, and in among the homes, we couldn’t see something. We simply knew the tough sq. footage or we might simply see it from the surface and we have been identical to, this might in all probability work. Yeah. We knew we needed a bit little bit of an even bigger home as a result of we wish to have each of our workspaces in our dwelling. And that’s one thing that now that we’ve accomplished it so many instances, we wouldn’t compromise once more on we don’t need workplaces outdoors of the house. Anyway, I picked a few homes after which my husband picked a few homes. And I wrote handwritten letters to the house owners. If I might discover their names, I put their names, however often, you possibly can’t. I simply put proprietor and I knew it seemed like spam. So for individuals who dwell in any type of a fascinating neighborhood, you’ll generally get these letters that type of look handwritten, however in addition they look type of pretend the place it’s like, I wish to purchase your house. However you possibly can inform it’s not actual.
Emma: I’ve really additionally, like the primary home I ever purchased, which I talked about in a earlier episode a very long time in the past, we nonetheless personal it and it’s a long-term rental. I get letters on a regular basis that’s like not somebody who needs to purchase the home to dwell in it such as you. It’s extra identical to an investor, I assume. That’s simply wanting to purchase the home cuz it matches their standards or no matter prefer it’s in the precise neighborhood or no matter. And you may type of all the time inform, cuz it does, it’ll say proprietor, it doesn’t often say my identify, however generally it says my identify. And generally they’ll look a bit extra handwritten, however then you definately open ’em up and it’s simply very like spammy. It’s identical to, we wanna purchase your home for the bottom attainable worth and preserve renting it and it’s like, okay, effectively I don’t wanna promote it proper now. So yeah, I believe folks get these letters they usually can come off type of like spammy.
Elise: Yeah. So I might have my youngsters draw on the surface of the envelope, like a bit crown drawing, I felt like that was like a sign to point out that this can be a actual letter coming from an actual household. I didn’t put footage in it as a result of I simply personally hate it when folks ship footage once they’re making an attempt to purchase my homes. Like if you get provides with footage, I simply suppose they’re awkward, so I didn’t try this, however I do know lots of people suppose they’re candy and possibly I’m incorrect to say that. However I simply wrote mainly our household has been residing in Nashville for eight years and we’ve got determined to maneuver to our hometown over the subsequent yr so if you’re in any respect and I like underlined in any respect, in promoting your home inside the subsequent yr, please let me know and I might love to debate. And if not, you might have a stupendous dwelling, you already know all that. Have a great day. After which I would depart my cellphone quantity and my e-mail. So I bought again three responses out of, I believe 4 or 5 letters. So I believed that was fairly good. The primary one was saying possibly subsequent yr, which was type of the worst attainable response as a result of it’s like you possibly can’t make any plan, however you might have your hopes up a bit bit. And I by no means heard from them once more. And it was identical to possibly subsequent yr, and the second was completely not , which I appreciated them sending me a textual content. And yeah, it wasn’t like actual pleasant, but in addition I get it they won’t have recognized if I used to be an actual particular person or not. After which, it may very well be a scammer. After which the third one was, Emma was with me after I bought this textual content. It was Jeremy’s first selection for a home, I’ll say that. To begin with. So it was like out of all the homes, it was in all probability the best-located home and it was a home that I all the time drove by and like lusted after as a 20-year-old and stuff. It was simply a type of homes that you just drive by in your hometown and also you’re like, what’s that one? Have you learnt what I imply? Such as you would like to go within it kind of factor. They usually despatched me a textual content and it stated, concerning the property at blah, blah, blah, tackle Elsie, I couldn’t imagine after I opened your letter with all of the candy drawings out of your ladies, except for following a stupendous mess for years, you photographed our marriage ceremony in 2004. I believe we would have been one of many final weddings after which she describes which marriage ceremony it’s after which she stated, my husband, Clean and I’ve been considering of transferring for some time now. After which she describes plenty of her private scenario of why they wanna transfer they usually say, we’d be comfortable to maneuver ahead and determine some particulars. Your letter has are available such a serendipitous manner that I might love for this superb dwelling to go to somebody like your loved ones, who I do know would treasure it. So, yeah. It was top-of-the-line moments ever. And I had been asking the universe for an indication as a result of I used to be nonetheless experiencing plenty of regret, and unhappiness about, simply particularly not planning to maneuver to this neighborhood in Brooklyn anymore and I used to be nonetheless getting over that. So after I bought this textual content, I did take it as an indication that we have been on the precise path, as a result of I simply suppose that, I imply, I solely photographed weddings for like two years after I was in my early twenties. It was my first enterprise. I’ve by no means heard from anybody once more. It was only a actually very long time in the past, nearly 20 years. So, yeah, I took it as an important signal, after which, after that, we type of stayed in contact and it took about six months to have the ability to really buy the home from them. So it was a protracted course of, however I believe since that second I knew that it was meant to be and that we have been on the precise path.
Emma: Signal from the universe?
Elise: Sure. Okay. So we’re transferring this summer season and we’re simply ready to let our daughter get out of first grade earlier than we transfer, after which we’ll in all probability transfer in June-ish. And we’ve closed on our dwelling in Missouri already. So now we’ve began doing a number of renovations there, and I don’t suppose it wants an overhaul. I discovered an enormous lesson two years in the past after I began an enormous main renovation in October. So for this dwelling, I simply wanna transfer in a clean manner and luxuriate in Halloween and luxuriate in Christmas. After which after that, I might see us beginning an enormous renovation in possibly January or so. However I don’t wish to interrupt Christmas or the vacations like ever once more with renovating it wasn’t value it to fulfill in any respect. So, it’s gonna be a cheerful summer season. I spotted this week that we’ve got been planning this transfer and likewise we promised our daughter for her birthday in June that we’d get a pet. So then I spotted that like I believe I volunteered to get a pet the week that we transfer, which possibly wasn’t a good suggestion, however can also be now It’s form of set in stone. She’s actually enthusiastic about it.
Emma: Yeah. So she’s bought names picked out. It’s taking place. Yeah. It may not be the perfect timing, however who’s ever gonna remorse getting a pet? Come on, what are you able to do?
Elise: It’s true. So yeah, I really feel like we bought our signal. We bought the right home for us. So possibly I ought to describe the home just a bit bit. So we needed to wait two months after we first texted the house owners to enter the home in particular person to look, and I might say, that the toughest a part of the entire course of was simply ready as a result of we had just about agreed with them that we’d purchase their dwelling, however we had by no means seen it earlier than. And there have been some footage on-line that we might have a look at, however they have been older and we didn’t know, like how a lot had it been up to date since that point. So once we went in it for the primary time, the primary and solely time, it was October. It was such a surreal expertise. We took our children to my mother’s home for the day as a result of we didn’t need. Like, I don’t know. I believe it’s type of laborious to have a look at a home with youngsters, but in addition I needed them to see it for the primary time when it was both empty or with their stuff within the bedrooms. I believe it’s more durable to think about for little youngsters when there’s like a totally furnished dwelling. So a number of first impressions, the factor that we love concerning the dwelling probably the most is the curb enchantment. It seems type of precisely like the house from the Household stone, the film has a bit tiny little bit of father of the bride. It’s identical to the right prefer it seems like a film home from the surface, which is, it’s actually cute, which is like Final Elsie Dream. And, you already know, I like actually, actually needed an previous dwelling. So this dwelling was constructed within the early 19 lots of and it is extremely previous within it. The skin of it is extremely conventional. I believe that it’s technically a colonial revival, however some folks have a look at it and suppose farmhouse too, cuz it has huge porches that type of wrap. After which on the within, it has a number of unimaginable unique options. It has a staircase that’s attractive on the entry. It has a hearth within the kitchen, which is like my factor that I freaked out about after I noticed it and understood as a result of that’s considered one of my desires is having a hearth within the kitchen. It’s identical to the fanciest, Nancy Meyers. Yeah. And aside from that, it has actually plenty of potentials to be improved as a result of it’s been renovated quite a bit and it’s fairly plain. The options are fairly plain. There’s nearly no crown molding and issues like that that you’d count on from a house, from its period. So I might see us including much more like historic particulars, however something that we’re preserving, after which we will certainly add extra.
Emma: Have you ever purchased something for the home but? Like what was the very first thing you purchased?
Elise: Ooh. Okay, thus far we had our closing final week and I met with a wood flooring particular person, so I bought that booked, which was thrilling and I picked a specialty wooden flooring for the entryway, which is type of just like the diamond sample, you’ve in all probability seen them like a painted on diamond sample, however the one which we’re doing is with two colours of stain. So it’s a bit bit extra refined. I believe it’ll be actually fairly, I hope and the factor I’ve purchased thus far is simply lighting fixtures. So I requested my in-laws if I might begin delivery lighting fixtures to their dwelling, and I don’t suppose they knew what they have been saying sure to. There are plenty of bots within the dwelling which have modernized lighting fixtures, so I’ve been shopping for nearly all vintage lighting fixtures to modify. After which a number of conventional ones, so possibly I can present a pair within the present notes this week. I believe that will probably be enjoyable. Largely, I’ve been looking for vintage ones from Etsy and that’s been plenty of enjoyable. That’s in all probability considered one of my prime favourite issues to buy vintage stuff for certain. I haven’t purchased the rest but.
Emma: Nicely, what do you suppose you’re gonna miss most about your home that you just’re at present residing in? Or possibly like what you’re gonna miss most about Nashville, Tennessee typically as a result of it’s such an important city.
Elise: Yeah. Okay. So what I’m gonna miss about Nashville, clearly, like I’ve some actually particular buddies right here that I’m gonna miss. However so far as like companies, I’ve this restaurant known as spares, that’s my final, we go there for birthdays and celebrations and it’s actually particular. We love Dinos, there are plenty of cute boutiques right here. Our buddy has a boutique in East Asheville known as Apple and Oak. There are plenty of particular locations that we’re gonna miss and undoubtedly Hewitt the backyard heart. It’s considered one of my final favourite locations I like, I all the time joke that I moved to this facet of city to simply be subsequent to that Backyard Heart, which isn’t actually a lie. It’s superb. It’s so, so attractive. So I’m gonna miss so many issues, however so far as our dwelling, I believe the hidden library is the factor that’s the toughest to depart. So we knew that we weren’t gonna keep at first once we first began that renovation. So I’ve recognized the entire time. The opposite factor I’m gonna actually miss about this house is the library eating room. I used to be so pleased with that, I had a lot enjoyable placing it collectively, and nearly all of the books are spooky. It was enjoyable, that was a dream venture. And total, I like this dwelling. If we have been staying in Tennessee, I might keep right here endlessly. It’s a great dwelling and it actually works. I’m gonna miss so many issues about it. And somebody requested me like for those who might transport your house, would you, and like in comparison with the house that we’re transferring to, I believe I nonetheless simply needed an previous dwelling so unhealthy that I possibly would change, however that’s actually the one factor. The one purpose so many individuals don’t even like previous houses, you already know? The place we dwell in Tennessee it’s not an previous dwelling space, it’s a brand new dwelling space. It’s like all the things’s new and it seems very nice. And so I believe that whoever strikes right here will adore it for what it’s. They usually’re in all probability not an individual who needs like 120-year-old dwelling.
Emma: However hopefully they need a really adorned dwelling cuz yours accomplished. Which is good, I believe. However thanks.
Elise: It’s been enjoyable exhibiting it. We’ve been engaged on promoting it for some time and the suggestions is often very nice, however for lots of people, I do suppose it’s plenty of wallpaper and stuff. So I believe that the house will have to be both renovated or going to somebody who likes wallpaper however I don’t have any regrets in any respect about that. Despite the fact that I do know not everybody likes wallpaper. I simply suppose it seems so good on this dwelling. So I might somewhat it go to somebody who simply sees that and likes it. However you already know, finally I don’t get to select and it type of doesn’t matter. It’s not gonna be my dwelling anymore.
Emma: Yeah. Nicely, it’s not the costliest factor to take away the wallpaper for those who don’t like wallpaper. Yeah, I imply, there are far more costly modifications you possibly can have made these folks would’ve been like, oh, effectively, you already know, that’s like true ripping out tile or backsplashes or counter tops, these are far more costly than wallpaper.
Elise: However yeah, we’re undoubtedly gonna miss it. And it’s like undoubtedly unhappy. And I might see us coming to Nashville so much sooner or later, and we all the time got here right here so much earlier than we lived right here. It’s an important place. I don’t really feel able to say goodbye to it in any respect, so I’m simply not going to.
Emma: Yeah, Nashville is superior. I’m certain we’ll go to a lot. It’ll be enjoyable. And in some methods too, cuz you’ll have like type of contemporary eyes.
Elise: That’s true. There are much more accommodations in Nashville now. Once we first moved right here, there have been one or two cool accommodations. Now there are like 10. So I believe that’s cool too. We are able to come keep in one of many fancy new accommodations and get room service and that’ll be actually completely different.
Emma: Yeah, and you’ve got fairly a number of like actually good buddies there, so it’s not such as you’ll by no means go to cuz you’ll wanna see your pals. So yeah, like Ting and Jason. So anyway, I’ll say a few issues I’m enthusiastic about.
Elise: Oh yeah. I wanna hear. Everybody needs to listen to your perspective. That’s just like the primary factor folks ask me is how does Emma really feel? What does Emma suppose? So say it.
Emma: Oh, that’s candy. I believed it was cool that you just needed to dwell in New York. Like I stated, I believe it was neat how a lot you had modified your thoughts on it from different instances we’d visited New York and I might’ve cherished visiting you there. However I bear in mind if you informed me, I bear in mind considering. Oh, I’m simply not gonna see her as a lot. Not as a result of I don’t wanna go to New York or as a result of it’s an excessive amount of cash or one thing, however ever since I had Oscar, I simply have visited Nashville so much much less. It’s simply laborious to be away from him. And naturally, we’ve introduced Oscar to Nashville a number of instances, and we’ll keep for longer when we’ve got him there with us. However that’s additionally type of difficult differently too, you already know? So I used to be identical to, oh, I’m simply not gonna see her as a lot. So I believe that the factor that I’m most enthusiastic about with you transferring house is I’ll get to see you extra, which is nice for work after all as a result of we are able to batch work collectively fairly quickly we’re eager to do the factor with our podcast the place we file collectively and we are able to movie it so we are able to put it on like YouTube or various things like that, which I believe will probably be actually enjoyable. However greater than something, I’ve simply felt like since I grew to become a mother, I’ve so much much less time to be an aunt and it makes me actually unhappy as a result of I like being an aunt. It’s the perfect, and I simply don’t go away dwelling as a lot or as actually because after I do, I don’t see my son, and that’s all the time laborious. And so understanding that you just guys will probably be on the town, it’s like, oh, effectively I can simply deliver him over Saturday mornings and I can choose up some McDonald’s hash browns on the way in which, and I’ll be goldie’s hero. It’s simply simpler. It is going to be a lot simpler to get in some ant time, after which additionally simpler for work stuff too. In order that’s actually thrilling. And I really feel like we talked about this sooner or later, however, so after faculty, I moved to Los Angeles for a number of years, solely like three years. So not so long as you’ve lived in Nashville in any respect and it’s a very completely different season of my life. I wasn’t married, and I didn’t have youngsters. Entire completely different age, blah, blah, blah. However I bear in mind after I moved dwelling feeling type of melancholy about it at first. Not as a result of I didn’t like Springfield, cuz I used to be excited to maneuver dwelling and work with you. We have been actually beginning a stupendous mess again then, which it’s really known as Pink Velvet, we had a neighborhood retailer. We do plenty of issues with it. However anyway, so I used to be enthusiastic about that. I used to be excited to see my household extra. However I believe one thing about residing within the city you grew up in, one thing about it feels a bit bit like, oh, I didn’t make it farther than this. Have you learnt what I imply? Just like the literal distance, which now that I’m, possibly you don’t really feel this manner cuz you’re older and extra mature than I used to be at that age. I believe I used to be like 25 or six when this was occur. However now I don’t actually even really feel prefer it issues the place I dwell. I believe when it comes to much more of like what I need from life so far as like a profession and a household. And to me, residing someplace that’s a bit bit simpler to see household and simply being trustworthy right here, a bit bit cheaper than another areas of the nation. It makes it simpler to journey and see issues that I possibly wouldn’t see as a result of if I used to be residing in a dearer place, which for me Los Angeles was much more costly than residing in Springfield, Missouri, I simply didn’t have as a lot cash to do issues that I needed to do. And I believe that’s modified with each time and age, but in addition identical to the world. So, anyway. I don’t actually know the place I’m going with this, I’m simply form of saying some possibly encouraging issues, possibly not, I don’t know, however identical to, I don’t know. I believe generally it feels a bit melancholy to maneuver again to the place you’re from, but it surely’s really been top-of-the-line issues I ever did and I hope it feels that manner for you. I believe it can.
Elise: Thanks for sharing that. That’s actually candy. Yeah, I nearly didn’t put the New York half into the story. I don’t really feel able to leaving it out. That’s why I put it in, however I nearly didn’t put it in as a result of I don’t wish to get 1,000,000 feedback which can be like, it’s best to have moved to New York. I do know that it’s a larger metropolis with extra alternatives for my kids, like a extra thrilling place. Like I do know that clearly. I didn’t need them to be in contrast as a result of you possibly can’t evaluate them and they need to by no means be in contrast. A small city in Missouri ought to by no means be in comparison with New York Metropolis. However for me I don’t really feel unhappy, I don’t suppose in the identical manner, however the purpose why considered one of our huge causes was that upon getting youngsters and we’ve got a dedication to seeing our household being there for the vacations, being there, there are a number of instances all year long once we’re all the time in Missouri. So we just about felt like we lived in Nashville, however we spent all of our trip time going to Missouri and we actually did, partly it was due to Covid, however partly it’s simply because we don’t have sufficient capability. We’ve got hardly traveled anyplace with our children in addition to going to Missouri time and again for the previous 4 years. That is without doubt one of the causes, I don’t know if it’s a purpose why we’re transferring, but it surely’s an enormous benefit of it or an enormous professional from the professionals and cons checklist. Is that we received’t must journey anymore for Christmas and for each single summer season. We often go about 4 or 5 instances a yr and as a substitute of getting to satisfy these obligations, we’d be capable of go to different locations, which is what we actually wish to do. After which for these holidays and stuff, we’d simply already be there as a result of we dwell there. I believe that was a fairly compelling purpose for us as a result of we do wanna journey with our children and we wish to go to a a lot larger number of locations. And once we considered residing in New York, which is a spot with an unlimited quantity of tradition and alternatives for our children. However we wouldn’t actually be capable of go anyplace apart from staying there and going again to Missouri on a regular basis to satisfy our obligation. So anyway, that’s for certain an enormous purpose. And anybody who lives away out of your hometown, away from your loved ones, who has youngsters I do know, understands, it’s a sophisticated give and take and that we’re all simply making an attempt to make these two issues join.
Emma: Yeah. And there’s like no excellent place to dwell typically. And likewise like anybody who would depart you a remark like, it’s best to dwell right here somewhat than right here in your youngsters. That’s simply foolish. They don’t know your youngsters, they’re not their dad and mom. That’s simply ridiculous. So I don’t suppose you actually need to fret about that. I believe you’re giving your youngsters an important childhood and many alternatives to see their household, to see various things on this planet to develop their pursuits. I’m not apprehensive about them, so that you don’t have to be both.
Elise: Thanks. We’re doing our greatest and it’s undoubtedly the happiest time of my life I’m enthusiastic about this subsequent season. I believe that we’ll be capable of obtain plenty of our targets and be capable of give a bit bit extra to our children when it comes to household time, touring, yeah, plenty of various things. So we had a factor down right here that was like, how is that this gonna have an effect on a stupendous mess or a podcast? So yeah, I believe that it’s gonna have an effect on a stupendous mess in a fairly considerably constructive manner. Emma wouldn’t say this, however I can admit it, that she was like, carrying all the things for a very long time, particularly since I had youngsters. However actually earlier than that too, she all the time visited me much more than I visited her and she or he would come for devoted work time. Once I would come to Missouri, I wouldn’t have time to work cuz we’d be doing all of our household obligations. I believe that Emma was making it work for us to work lengthy distance, after which when she grew to become a mother, it began to turn into clear that I couldn’t simply ask her to return anytime I needed anymore and that wasn’t going to maintain working. So we simply weren’t gonna see one another as a lot, which additionally is ok. I believe that we might have saved working lengthy distance. I don’t suppose it was dysfunctional like we bought good at it, however I believe that so far as eager to be a quote unquote model collectively, simply taking images and movies collectively is a lot more durable if you’re combining it into like 5 instances a yr that you just see one another. Have you learnt what I imply? Then when you are able to do it on an everyday Tuesday. So I do suppose that it’ll in all probability have an effect on our weblog enterprise and the podcast in a very constructive manner, simply because the comfort stage is gonna go up a hundredfold. Yeah. And we’re gonna begin doing the video podcast, which I’m enthusiastic about. We’re gonna begin recording collectively in particular person. We’ve got accomplished it earlier than a number of instances. It’s kinda like good like I believe the vitality is a bit bit completely different and I don’t know, I’m used to this, so I don’t really feel like there’s like an issue with it. I believe we’ll simply be like in a extra snug routine and I believe it’ll come off that strategy to our viewers.
Emma: Yeah. I don’t know if it’s gonna really feel that completely different for our viewers. I believe it can, however I believe greater than you suppose they’ll discover something. I believe greater than something it’ll really feel higher to us. It’ll simply be simpler in some methods, and possibly they received’t even see it, which is completely positive. You don’t must see how simple or laborious work is. However hopefully, it all the time appears simple from the surface. However I believe it will likely be, I believe it’ll really feel simpler for us. In order that’ll be good. It’ll be nice. It’ll be superior.
Elise: I believe so too. I’m excited. I really feel like, I’m additionally nonetheless shocked, like I’m nonetheless so shocked that it’s even taking place, however I believe it’s gonna be superb and, I can’t wait to point out the home, so I’ll put a bit one thing on my Instagram at present, so you possibly can see just a bit peek and yeah, over the subsequent few months we’ll share much more. I’m not like Emma, I don’t really feel as non-public about my home. I like sharing it for enjoyable. I’m so excited. Nicely, let’s go on then to our new phase. A joke or a reality with Nova. All proper. We’re prepared for a joke or a reality with Nova. Right here’s Nova.
Nova: So I’m going to just do jokes at present. Okay. After which subsequent week I’m gonna begin my reality and jokes. Okay. So why did a cookie go to the physician? As a result of he was feeling a bit bit crummy. Oh, that’s a great one. And the way do you propose a celebration in house, you planet.
Elsie: All proper. Thanks a lot for listening. I’m so excited to share this journey with you. Subsequent week we’ll be again for half two, sharing extra particulars about long-distance renovating, getting our Tennessee dwelling able to checklist, and what’s taking place with the Pink Home. We’ll even be sharing our e book report for this time tomorrow. So for those who’re studying in real-time, right here is your warning.
Emma: End your e book. Folks have been speaking about it.