Episode #172: Making ready for a Massive Transfer!

This week, we’re sharing extra particulars about my upcoming transfer to Missouri, together with long-distance renovating, getting our Tennessee house able to record, and what’s occurring with the pink home. 

We’re additionally sharing a guide report for This Time Tomorrow by  Emma Straub.

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Present Notes

Lengthy-distance renovating suggestions:

-Get one of the best contractor to keep away from errors

-Do the naked minimal to make it prepared to maneuver in

-Discover a contractor who has labored in your neighborhood

-Allow them to know your expectations within the first assembly

-Ship photos of what you need from Pinterest

Upcoming renovations after Elsie strikes in:

-Add a sunroom to the opposite facet of the home

-Make the porch wrap round

New house temper board:

-Numerous bookshelves

-An electrical fire that appears actual

-Extra inexperienced paint

-Paint Jeremy’s studio blue

-Attempt a reddish-pink shade

-Ceiling tiles

How we ready our house in Tennessee to record:

-Deep clear and decrease 

-Eliminated private objects

-Up to date {hardware}

The factor Elsie is most happy with together with her Tennessee home:

-Hidden library, bed room makeover, and floor-to-ceiling bookshelves

What’s occurring with the pink home: 

-Conserving it for now. We’d must dwell there subsequent 12 months for a bit and we’re planning on doing an Airbnb for now. I wouldn’t be shocked if we record it. Presently not sure! 

This Time Tomorrow guide report favourite highlights:


-The time journey author inside a time journey guide 

-The daddy/daughter relationship 

-That it was set within the Nineteen Nineties


-The significance of spending time with these you’re keen on

-Father/daughter relationship

-Time journey

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Episode 172 Transcript:

Elsie: You’re listening to The Lovely Mess Podcast. This week we’re sharing extra particulars about my upcoming transfer to Missouri, together with long-distance renovating, getting our Tennessee house able to record and what’s occurring with the Pink Home. We’re additionally sharing a guide report for this time tomorrow by Emma’s job. Sure, sure, sure. Okay. So thanks a lot to your assist final week. I really feel like my coronary heart is filled with love. You guys by no means stop to amaze me together with your kindness. I believe it’s a blogger mind drawback, to count on individuals to be imply about all the pieces, after which when individuals are so good, it truly is so reassuring.

Emma: Individuals are good. Ooh, most individuals are good. 

Elsie: I’m gonna inform a bit tiny little bit of a narrative about our Disney journey. So, on the finish of January, we went to Disney, and our daughter, Marigold turned 5 whereas we had been there we timed it in order that the day she turned 5 she bought to satisfy Elsa, which is like her hero. She’s just about had one section her complete life and it’s solely frozen, which has been enjoyable for us. She’s been on it for a number of years now. Each single 12 months she desires the identical sort of party, it’s very attention-grabbing. The factor I wanna speak about from Disney is one thing that we’ve been to a couple instances with the youngsters, however we’ve by no means been to the bi-baity boutique. Have you ever ever heard of this? 

Emma: Oh, no. By no means heard of it. 

Elsie: There’s a bit boutique subsequent to Cinderella’s Fortress in Magic Kingdom, and it’s the place youngsters can get princess makeovers. And that was all I knew about it after we booked it. And I used to be like I undoubtedly wanna get this as a result of clearly, Marigold’s a princess and we should always attempt it. So we had been with one other household, that they had their two daughters after which our two daughters had been there and all 4 of the youngsters did a princess makeover and it was so cute. So let me simply describe it for everybody who’s by no means been there. So once you stroll inside, it’s like this lovable little cottage and the wallpaper, it was like this lovely vintage wanting wallpaper, however there was like little Disney, like little particulars of Cinderella mice, labored all through it. It was beautiful, lovely. And my first impression was, that is nicer than the place the place I attempted on marriage ceremony attire. That is true, like promenade, all the pieces. I’ve by no means had an expertise myself this good earlier than. 

Emma: It already sounds nicer than anywhere I’ve gotten my nails achieved or my lash stuff.

Elsie: Yeah. Step one was, and I’ll say this was like Construct a Bear the place it might get very costly, however we determined to only flip our brains off for the day and go along with it. So the youngsters choose costumes and it was so cute. So Nova picked a prince costume, which we knew she was going to cuz she talks about princes on a regular basis and we had been like, we love that for you. After which Marigold picked the Rapunzel costume, she wished to select the Elsa costume, however I used to be like, oh my God, you have already got like eight of these. So I form of talked her into the opposite one and it was similar to a far more elaborate gown. So I used to be comfortable about that. Then they pick a ton of equipment, there’s like wands, crowns, and Marigold had these like hair extensions, like this pink ponytail popping out the highest. 

Emma: Oh my God, that hair extension, once I noticed it within the picture, Elsie was sitting photographs that our like sibling group textual content, and I used to be similar to, this hair extension, it’s wild. 

Elsie: It’s wild, yeah I knew she was gonna choose it and I used to be similar to, simply say sure to all the pieces. Okay, it was like her birthday current, after which we went right into a dressing room and we dressed them of their costumes after which there’s this big gold mirror and I used to be commenting to our pals, I would like this mirror for my house. It was so lovely and I didn’t know that it was about to do essentially the most magical factor I’d ever seen. It form of turned a TV and it performed a video of the fairy godmother speaking to the youngsters about their makeover. In order that was unimaginable like I couldn’t consider it, I used to be very wow. After which they go right into a kind of like a separate salon, like throughout the road they usually sit in salon chairs, they get their nails achieved, they get their hair achieved. Marigold and Nova’s variations actually got here out cuz Nova declined each single factor. She was like, no glitter, no nothing, and Marigold had all the pieces that might be on her. There have been jules glued on her face, glitter make-up, all the pieces. 

Emma: Her like, would you want extra of this? And he or she was like, extra of all the pieces.

Elsie: Sure, after which after that they do form of a bit like reveal, which is so cute. After which that they had a bit portrait studio throughout the road they usually bought their portraits taken. And they’re the cutest portraits I’ve ever seen and I’m going to border them. They are going to be in my home once I’m 80. So yeah, the expertise, I’d say out of all of the Disney issues we’ve ever achieved that appear. , just like the eating places and stuff, they appear overpriced, no matter. This was price it. This was price it, like 20 out of 10, so price it. At the very least for our expertise. I believed it was the be among the best issues we’ve ever achieved there.

Emma: I adore it. Yeah, and once you despatched the photographs, I used to be like, cuz actually, more often than not when Elsie sends an image of her two women collectively, it’s like certainly one of them’s dressed like. Sensible, like beige, you realize, simply, that’s her model. That’s what Nova likes after which Goldie at all times has a princess gown on. All the time. So once I noticed their makeovers, how Goldie had picked the craziest hair extension I’d ever seen in my life, and it regarded actually good and simply had jules glued throughout her face. She simply regarded wild. After which Nova’s like on this prince outfit and he or she has a sword and her hair’s tied again like she’s prepared to enter battle or one thing. They usually each regarded wonderful and I used to be like, I really feel like they each picked precisely what they wished they usually look wonderful. 

Elsie: Yeah, it was nice. They did an amazing job and all the pieces was so cute. It was simply such a enjoyable expertise. Anyway, I can’t say sufficient good issues. 

Emma: Now I need a spa day the place somebody places extensions in my hair. That sounds good. 

Elsie: I believe we should always have a spa day. Possibly we should always invent a cause like perhaps it’s our podcast anniversary or no matter. I don’t know, and simply go get a spa day. 

Emma: That sounds good.

Elsie: Okay, so this week we’re gonna do some follow-up to episode two final week cuz final week we dropped the bombs and we all know you all had a whole lot of questions and I’m gonna attempt to reply all of them. Simply share extra particulars about our upcoming transfer and what to anticipate and perhaps some extra photos within the present notes. So yeah, let’s get into it. 

Emma: So let’s speak about long-distance renovating. 

Elsie: So to start with, I’ll say long-distance renovating is form of difficult and it’s not our first time to do it. I do really feel like every time now we have renovated, we’ve discovered these life classes which can be constructing blocks for the following time. So certainly one of my issues with this long-distance renovation is that I’m selecting essentially the most respected contractors. I’m probably not attempting to save cash at this section as a result of I don’t wanna have a catastrophe, like once I first moved to Nashville. So I believe selecting individuals who have been advisable 10 instances over, all of the those that we’re working with up to now are individuals who work in our neighborhood on a regular basis. So I believe that’s a really character check simply because they know everybody they usually know that you realize everybody and I believe that’s useful. And the opposite factor that I’d say that I’m doing otherwise than I usually would is that I’m probably not attempting to do essentially the most, I’m attempting to do the least. I’m attempting to be sensible and sensible, so I’m not attempting to renovate your complete house earlier than we transfer in in any respect. I’m simply attempting to do the naked minimal that may assist us be extra settled after we are moved in. So we’re undoubtedly doing the flooring, we’re undoubtedly portray and I’m doing a little work to the ceilings. I’m constructing some bookshelves, some issues that. , like we’ll do it ultimately, but when I’ve to chop something out, I don’t even care. So long as we do the flooring and we are able to transfer in with out ever having to maneuver all that again out once more. 

Emma: Yeah, no flooring is an efficient purpose to do earlier than all of your furnishings goes in.

Elsie: Yeah, and these flooring are, I really feel actually fortunate as a result of they’re authentic they usually have room to be sanded and refinished once more as a result of you may solely try this so many instances in a lifetime. It’s a whole lot of instances with flooring which can be over 100 years outdated. It is sensible that if that they had achieved loads, then they is likely to be coming to the top of their life they usually weren’t. So I really feel fortunate they, the wooden man mentioned they in all probability haven’t been refinished in additional than 30 years, which is good. So yeah, I really feel excited to only do one thing fairly traditional. We’re gonna select a darker ground shade this time, which we by no means do. And I really feel prefer it’s a sign of a brand new period. I’m open to various things. I’m altering my model a bit bit, which I’ve been for just a few years, however that is larger. It’s one thing that I’ve by no means picked a darkish ground shade earlier than. 

Emma: Yeah, what made you wanna go along with a darker ground? 

Elsie: I believe I’ve simply been so many books and inspiration from the period of our house and simply realizing that that’s like actually what fits the house greatest. And I do suppose that lighter or mid-tone flooring additionally look good in historic houses, however I believe that darker flooring appear to be they might have at all times been there. It’s like essentially the most traditional alternative. My husband, actually simply loves darkish wooden, so that is like his probability and he’s like, woo, he’s so excited to have darkish flooring once more. I’m excited. 

Emma: So that you talked about you’re discovering contractors who’ve labored within the neighborhood and issues like that. What could be your recommendation for somebody who’s needing to seek out contractors long-distance? Like how did you go about that? I do know you’re from Springfield, however I nonetheless suppose, you realize, you haven’t lived right here in like eight years. So what’s the method for locating good individuals? 

Elsie: I believe there’s actually just one contractor who I knew from the previous who I nonetheless would name to today. Most individuals are model new, who I’ve by no means met earlier than, which is regular. I believe that discovering individuals who work in your neighborhood on a regular basis, that’s a great technique as a result of it’s like there’s already established belief, and a whole lot of instances they like put their little signal out within the yard whereas they’re doing all your flooring or no matter, they wish to be part of the neighborhood, which is nice.

I’ve renovated sufficient to discover ways to be a great communicator from the start, so I allow them to understand how, quote-unquote excessive upkeep I’m from the primary assembly. I’m truly not essentially the most high-maintenance individual, however I believe I’m within the center. I clearly mentioned I’ll wish to approve each step. I’ll want a transparent iPhone picture, or I might want to are available in individual, issues like that in order that they don’t get forward of you. Cuz a whole lot of instances once you’re out of city, they simply wanna full the job, they usually may end the entire thing and never let you know sure steps, after which sure steps might be achieved, not the way you had been considering. There are such a lot of issues in renovating that may be achieved otherwise than the way you had been anticipating, and it actually wasn’t their fault. There are simply so many locations to misconceive and the best way that it appears to be like in your thoughts is normally not simply communicated popping out of your mouth or no matter. So I at all times have a number of photos and I rely like closely on sending Pinterest photos and I’d reasonably say, do it precisely like this than describe it to them and see what I’m gonna get. In order that’s one thing that I’d undoubtedly suggest. I simply suppose it’s safer. 

Emma: Yeah. And you then additionally point out you’re attempting to be a bit extra sensible. So apart from flooring, you may have different belongings you’re eager to get achieved, but when a few of ’em don’t work out earlier than you progress, oh effectively. So then are there any massive renovations that you just’re planning on doing after you progress in or simply sooner or later usually?

Elsie: Sure, so since earlier than the primary time I noticed this home, I knew that I wished to do a serious renovation, sooner or later the home has a partial wraparound porch. It’s a colonial revival house, which that model of house is understood for its symmetry, however the best way the home appears to be like proper now, it appears to be like like there are sunrooms added to at least one facet of the home after which not on the opposite facet. So the symmetry is off. So I’ve at all times recognized that if I had an opportunity to do an enormous renovation, I’d wish to match the sunrooms on either side in order that the symmetry is again. , and I believe it’s fairly apparent that it was added, the sunrooms weren’t authentic. I’d additionally like to have the porch go all the best way round and have a again porch, as a result of proper now it doesn’t have any form of again porch, and the yard is form of underwhelming in comparison with the entrance of the house.

There are a whole lot of issues I wanna do, nevertheless it’s stuff that we’d like, like an architect and a planning interval and permits and possibly an enormous funds. That’s not one thing I’d attempt to try lengthy distance or with out residing there first. The opposite factor I actually discovered from our final house was cuz we moved into the house we dwell in now in Nashville. We moved in right here in the course of the pandemic with zero renovations. We simply bought the keys and moved within the subsequent day. And it was a bit bit arduous as an individual who shares house stuff on-line as a result of individuals had been imply about our home for a very long time. And I don’t get it for a very long time, however as a mission, it turned out higher than something I’ve ever achieved as a result of I had extra time to suppose, like actually deeply take into consideration the selections earlier than I made them.

And I believe that I made a lot better selections than I did prior to now once I renovated homes that I hadn’t lived in but. So I stand by that and I believe that with the ability to dwell in a house and actually, I wish to overthink it. Like, take into consideration each attainable method you may transfer a wall or transfer a door, or like, the place would the dream pantry be? There are normally a number of choices once you’re doing an enormous renovation. I undoubtedly need my time to overthink once more earlier than I make these selections. 

Emma: Cool, I adore it. I’m assuming you may have a brand new house temper board, describe that for us. You’ve instructed us that it’s a colonial revival, so we all know it’s an older house and we all know that. However apart from that, are you able to inform us? I don’t know, colours? And we all know you’re getting darkish wooden flooring, however what else? 

Elsie: Yeah, having simply achieved our house in Tennessee, I’m actually proud of it. There have been sure issues from this house that I form of wished to repeat. Like, you by no means wanna do the very same factor once more, but additionally if that’s what I actually wanna do, that’s what I’m gonna do. So the issues I’m gonna repeat are like an abundance of bookshelves. That was one thing that I really like, I really like, love, love, adore it. I’m actually proud of it. The fake fire scenario, I believe I form of wanna attempt to discover a model of an electrical hearth that appears form of actual. I believe I wanna attempt that if we do like one other bed room fire. However I undoubtedly am glad that I added the fireplaces and I actually favored the colours that we used on this house. I do know that inexperienced paint just isn’t a brand new pattern. Inexperienced paint has been happening for years, however I prefer it. So I’ll undoubtedly do extra inexperienced within the subsequent house. It simply feels good. It’s like a feel-good shade that you just love the sensation of one thing that a lot. And I beloved the normal wallpaper, so my favourite a part of our complete house that we did was that little inexperienced nook room by the hidden library. I really like that feeling and would like to do extra of that in our subsequent house. I name it my vampire room, it’s simply form of the other of the sunshine and vibrant all-white, all the pieces, outdated Elsie aesthetic that I was obsessive about, which I nonetheless like white, but when I had been gonna do a white room, I’d need it to be like molding on, molding on molding on like texture and like some wooden, not simply plain and easy. So I assume what I wanna do is take the model I’ve been taking part in with and take it extra historic, extra just like the knives out. I began my factor once more by shopping for all these bizarre little statues and people bizarre, just like the bizarre stuff. I simply bought a brass alligator nutcracker on eBay, stuff like that on a regular basis. That’s undoubtedly the aesthetic after which I’m gonna attempt one a part of the house with blue paint, Jeremy’s studio although, not the primary half however that’s like massive for me. After which I’m going to attempt a bit little bit of a reddish, like a pinky-red shade, which I’m actually excited to attempt trigger I don’t suppose I’ve ever tried that shade.

Emma: Cool. I adore it. The place’s that gonna be?

Elsie: Possibly you realize the room that I maintain saying the puzzle room? I’m interested by that perhaps. 

Emma: Okay. Yeah, I adore it. It form of has like the ladies name it a stage. 

Elsie: Yeah. Or perhaps the breakfast room. However yeah. I’m excited, I wanna attempt a number of new issues. Oh, we’re gonna attempt ceiling tiles in our new lounge. So these like tin, truly, they’re not at all times fabricated from tin, however the textural ceiling tiles surrounded by moldings. I believe that’ll be actually completely different and I’m actually excited to attempt that.

Emma: Cool. Properly, when you’re having an abundance of bookshelves, seems like a whole lot of the stuff that’s already in your house, is it gonna match within the new house. I assume perhaps let’s speak about that for a second, furnishings. So what are you holding and transferring? Is there something that you realize you’re not gonna be holding or something that you realize you’ll be lacking when you get to Missouri?

Elsie: So we’re not holding as a lot furnishings as you’d suppose. So I actually just like the furnishings we did on the pink home. It’s a whole lot of flea market furnishings and a bit bit of latest stuff. And I believe we’ll in all probability beautify our new house a bit bit extra like that. In our house in Tennessee the place we dwell proper now, we nonetheless have a whole lot of mid-century furnishings that’s held over from our earlier houses.

So I do suppose we’re gonna have an incredible property sale for anybody who loves mid-century stuff, and I believe I’d let go of a bit little bit of my wicker, however undoubtedly not all of it. Positively holding the lamps, however yeah, I believe that we simply wish to add extra antiques, that’s actually the factor. So in Springfield, there’s this unimaginable flea market, it’s referred to as Relics Vintage mall or one thing. I’m just about gonna furnish my complete house from there and Fb market I believe. I believe that the house we dwell in is just a bit bit an excessive amount of Serena and Lily, which I really like Serena and Lily, nevertheless it’s very coastal and it leans a bit extra mid-century and extra transitional, it’s not one thing that goes with like antiques. I wished to have a tiny, tiny, teeny little haunted mansion feeling to it. In order that’s what we’re going for. It’s not a section I similar to love antiques, I really like residing with them. I really like being surrounded by them. And I additionally really feel like when you can have your dream vintage for like half the worth of one thing new, and even for a similar value, why wouldn’t you wish to try this? I at all times considered antiques as very costly, however when it comes all the way down to it, it’s truly not that. That is main furnishings so that you evaluate it to different main furnishings purchases. 

Emma: We was once the place our funds just about solely would match for like Ikea, you realize? And now it’s a bit extra expanded in all types of instructions. And though I nonetheless love one thing from Ikea right here and there, I agree, I believe new versus a flea market discover and vintage isn’t, generally the worth isn’t actually all that completely different in any respect. 

Elsie: In case you can have an vintage gentle fixture versus a light-weight fixture from Pottery Burn for a similar value, then sooner or later it’s only a choice of which one you want, the best way it appears to be like higher, proper? 

Emma: How did you put together your own home to record it in Tennessee? 

Elsie: Oh, man. Okay, so to start with, our realtor is known as Daniel Lengthy and I’m shouting him out. He’s the last word greatest. He’s certainly one of my shut pals, I really like him. I’m not recommending him cuz he’s my pal although. He’s an unimaginable realtor. He’s been our realtor for 4 years now and, he bought a number of homes for us and he at all times simply does an incredible job. And one of many issues I really like about him essentially the most is that he is available in and helps me audit what I must do to prep.

And so months in the past, in all probability, a 12 months in the past, we had him to our home and mentioned, what do we have to do to get this factor able to promote? It was after we nonetheless thought we had been gonna transfer to New York and he instructed me, he’s very trustworthy and he had me do issues that I actually wasn’t gonna do. Like we rebuilt this complete little rotten deck off the again of our home that I didn’t wanna do, however we did it and I’m glad we did now, he inspired us to do some stuff like that. It’s simply sensible, he simply offers his opinion about different issues. So yeah, once I realized we had been going to maneuver, we had been in the midst of our massive renovation with all of the bookshelves and the residing areas principally, so we had already achieved fairly a bit. So with that stuff, I actually simply completed it and I made a decision Like I nonetheless had the selection. I might have canceled all my wallpaper at that time and been like, I’m contemplating it a flip now, however since I used to be already so near the top, I used to be like, I simply wanna end it the best way I deliberate it, and the best way I designed it and {photograph} it only for my very own private pleasure, the best way that I deliberate it.

After which I felt like there was an opportunity somebody would love it or an opportunity they wouldn’t. You by no means know, proper? 

Emma: Properly, it already wasn’t an amazing flip, so that you may as effectively simply do what you’re doing. 

Elsie: Proper. So I simply determined to proceed with that. After which for our kitchen for instance, we by no means renovated it, it’s not a renovated kitchen, so we wished to do some small updates. So he requested me to change out that countertop that we had DIYed. It was completely advantageous for residing there, nevertheless it’s probably not applicable for promoting in our market, so we switched that out for a stable quartz counter. I switched all of the taps for gold and I added a backsplash tile, and that’s all I did to the kitchen, and it appears to be like 25% higher. It simply appears to be like prefer it’s up to date. It doesn’t appear to be it’s renovated. It doesn’t appear to be it ever bought gutted, nevertheless it does look up to date lately. I switched all of the {hardware} and simply the small issues like that. In order that’s actually what I did. After which, clearly, the cleansing and we had our painter end all of the trim in the home, like issues like that. We tried to make it a completed, renovated house. Despite the fact that if we had been staying there, I personally would renovate the kitchen nonetheless, I personally would renovate the primary lavatory nonetheless, if somebody doesn’t wish to, then they’re one of the best they are often for now. 

Emma: Yeah. And what’s it been wish to dwell at a home that’s listed and actively exhibiting? How lengthy have you ever been doing that, as of the time we’re recording? How’s it been? 

Elsie: One of many causes we stored the key of our transfer for therefore lengthy is as a result of I didn’t need our home itemizing to be handed round on the web, and that’s probably not in my management and I do know that it has occurred, and can occur and all the pieces. Nevertheless it was one thing I used to be attempting to keep away from or hoping to keep away from. We now have had our home listed since final fall. We did it for 2 months within the fall after which we took it down for about two months at Christmas to take a break. After which we put it again up round February 1st. So it’s difficult, I’d say it’s irritating, it’s as a result of we’re a household with two youngsters, however we do showings a lot that we form of need to maintain our house fairly near good on a regular basis. And as a blogger and an individual who does massive tasks and stuff, it’s additionally been difficult as a result of I’ve to at all times make certain that I’ve sufficient time to take it again to zero anytime I begin an enormous mission, which retains me from beginning loads. So I do suppose it’s dampened my creativity as a result of I’m usually the kind of one who will go away one desk, is that this mission, one other desk is that mission, and it’s similar to there are tasks in every single place on a regular basis. And that’s actually how I wish to dwell and it’s simply not one thing that we’re capable of do proper now. After which simply holding youngsters’ stuff cheap has been arduous. There was a sure half earlier than Christmas the place we had a heart-to-heart after we had been like, you realize what? We’re simply gonna let the youngsters make messes and play as a result of I don’t suppose {that a} home just isn’t gonna promote as a result of there are just a few child’s toys or no matter, you realize what I imply? So we’re taking the idea that so long as we’re taking good care of the large stuff like we bought a brand new roof, issues like that, we’re not gonna stress in regards to the magnet tiles and stuff as a result of it’s simply probably not honest to our kids. 

Emma: Yeah. Plus, when you don’t purchase a home simply because there are magnet tiles on the ground, what’s occurring with you?

Elsie: It’s undoubtedly a whole lot of work although, holding it that method. Nevertheless it’ll be price it and we’re comfortable to do it. I’m attempting to have a great angle and similar to get via the season, proper? 

Emma: Yeah, it’ll promote quickly. However yeah, it’s arduous to have showings, particularly attempting to maintain a home tremendous clear with youngsters and issues like that. I understand how a lot you’re gonna miss the home. And also you’ve talked about that a bit bit, however what’s the factor you’re the proudest of on this home that you just selected to do, or will miss essentially the most 

Elsie: So I undoubtedly suppose so far as one thing sentimental, the hidden library, it’s the highest factor as a result of it was a dream for me to do it. My husband thinks that now that I’ve achieved it, I don’t must do one ever once more. And that could be a dialog that’s ongoing, for positive. However yeah, it was simply so enjoyable and, very fulfilling, very thrilling. And It’s undoubtedly a factor that we’ve had a whole lot of realtors posting simply that a part of our home, so I do know that it’s the standout particular characteristic too. However apart from that, I’m so happy with the renovation we did within the bed room. It’s not as photogenic, it’s not as shareable, however the feeling in individual, the distinction that it made with the large paneled ceiling, it’s unimaginable. So I believe that’s in all probability essentially the most underrated renovation after which additionally simply that massive part of inexperienced cabinets in our lounge, I believe was the opposite most suitable option that we made as a result of the lounge simply didn’t have a whole lot of vibes earlier than. Do you bear in mind what it regarded like earlier than, it was form of vibeless and now it has a lot character. So yeah, I believe ground, ceiling, cabinets, after which simply easy paneling, a paneled ceiling had been a number of the greatest decisions I’m very happy with these.

Emma: Yeah, and the individuals actually wanna know what’s occurring with the Pink Home. That is in all probability the factor individuals ask essentially the most. They’re like, is she gonna promote the pink home? Is she gonna maintain it? They wanna actually wanna know in regards to the Pink Home.

Elsie: Yeah, so that is how one can inform that I by no means thought we’d transfer again to Missouri once more as a result of we solely purchased that home like a 12 months and a half in the past, proper? A 12 months, a 12 months and a half in the past. It wasn’t very way back in any respect. So we had no concept and we love staying there in the course of the holidays and stuff. I’m very connected to it. I nonetheless haven’t completed all the pieces I wished to do there to replace it, so I’m not actually considering promoting it. There’s probably not a profit to us financially to promote it proper now. I believe we purchased it when the market was a bit extra up than it’s now. So I believe our first alternative is gonna be to make it an Airbnb as a result of then I might use it a bit bit for my photos and stuff. And we additionally nonetheless may want to remain in it after we’re renovating sooner or later. I believe that it’s actually, actually near our new home. I assume I in all probability haven’t defined that they’re two blocks aside. So that’s actually good too. I just like the neighborhood proximity of it, so at this level, I believe we’ll maintain it and lease it out indirectly. I undoubtedly don’t suppose we’ll record it this 12 months, but additionally stranger issues have occurred and I really feel like if I say something definitive, I curse myself, so I don’t wanna curse myself both.

Emma: Yeah. I imply, nobody is aware of the long run. That may be cool. 

Elsie: Properly, I hope I answered your questions and we will certainly take you alongside over the following six months as we transfer and settle in and all the pieces. Have our first Halloween, it’s gonna be wonderful. I maintain telling Emma all these loopy concepts. I’m like, Emma, I’m gonna get 12-foot skeletons and you realize, she’s like, okay, okay, okay. It’s gonna be wonderful. It’s gonna be an amazing 12 months. Okay, so ought to we go forward and do our guide report? 

Emma: Sure, let’s do it. This week’s guide report is about this time tomorrow, and we’re simply gonna discuss in regards to the guide. So when you haven’t learn it but, you may not wanna hearken to this, simply so you realize that. So the purpose of the guide is it’s a girl, Alice is our fundamental character, and, she’s older, she’s having her fortieth birthday, effectively, it’s probably not older, it’s not older. Elsie’s 40 so I needed to put that in there. I didn’t need her to really feel outdated. Anyway, she additionally has an ageing father who’s within the hospital. And so she’s form of coping with that in her life. She’s additionally at some extent in her life the place she has this profession that she’s form of kind of fallen into, I believe she mentions that she wished to be a painter, however she hasn’t actually been portray and he or she works at her outdated highschool as form of a steerage counselor or an admission. She decides on the little youngsters who go to the elementary college, she helps determine that, and it’s one thing that she appears to take pleasure in, nevertheless it wasn’t essentially a profession that she noticed herself doing eternally, so she’s doing that. She is also in a relationship the place she’s, okay, good man, however she doesn’t actually see herself getting married to him and doesn’t actually essentially really feel settled in that area of her life both. So we form of get the sensation that Alice is kind of her life and interested by making modifications, but additionally form of feeling like perhaps she’s at an age the place she’s simply settling in, and it turns into form of clear that the large factor in her life that truly issues essentially the most is her relationship together with her dad. And he’s, as I mentioned within the hospital, he appears to be dying and so I believe that that’s kind of the large catalyst of what’s my life gonna be as soon as he’s gone? It’s her fortieth birthday she goes out to have dinner and drinks with a pal who’s her pal from highschool and he or she’s a mother. In order that they don’t keep out tremendous late collectively cuz the mother lives in New Jersey and has to return to her mother life. However they’ve a pleasant dinner after which Alice goes out for just a few extra drinks after which she finally ends up going again to her father’s outdated house, which is faux now as he’s within the hospital. And he or she goes to his gardening shed, which he at all times beloved rising up, she mentions that that was an area that was one thing that he simply stored up the gardening shed, and it seems that the gardening shed is the way you journey again in time. So for in the future, she travels again in time to her sixteenth birthday. So she wakes up and he or she’s not 40, she’s 16 and it’s her sixteenth birthday, and he or she relives that day and any decisions that she makes on that day have an effect on her future. After which the following day she wakes up once more and he or she’s again to being 40. However her life’s completely different based mostly on no matter new decisions she made as a 16-year-old on her sixteenth birthday. And that’s form of the premise of the guide and we watch her do that time and again as she form of tries on completely different futures to see what she decides and certainly one of them, she marries this boy from her highschool who she at all times had a crush on, Tommy, and he or she form of sees what that may be like and it seems it wasn’t the fantasy that she had envisioned, issues like that. However my favourite a part of the guide is when she, as a 16-year-old, tells her dad in regards to the time journey. And her dad is an writer, he’s written Time Brothers and is into science fiction and time journey, and he or she tells him and he or she’s like, he’s gonna perhaps perceive perhaps not. He tells her that he’s time traveled many instances and he is aware of in regards to the gardening shed. I don’t know if it’s actually a twist, however I simply didn’t precisely see it coming. Despite the fact that they form of let you know as a result of they’re like, he at all times beloved the gardening shed, however I don’t know. He’s like I’ve at all times been time traveled. So she goes again to her sixteenth birthday. The day that he at all times returns to, is the day she was born. And later within the guide, he explains that he thinks the rationale that the time touring sends him again to that day was as a result of that was the day that he turned one of the best model of himself as a result of she was born. Additionally, he simply talks about going again and seeing her be born time and again. In a method, it nearly seems like a bit little bit of an habit. Like I get extra time, I get extra of this particular time as a result of I believe the older I get, the extra I perceive that there are these actually particular moments in life they usually go by shortly and there’s nothing you are able to do to carry onto them, it’s like sand via your hand, nevertheless it’s so particular. And in a method it’s this like melancholy factor that you just’re at all times residing the place you’re like, oh my gosh, that is essentially the most particular second and likewise it’s instantly gone. I believe that this guide actually captures a whole lot of that. I believe a number of the main themes of the guide to me is like ageing and mortality and a bit bit, and he or she offers with that via the lens of time journey and attending to relive sure components of your life and in a method getting extra time with the individuals you’re keen on. However I believe it nearly highlights the truth that there’s solely a lot time and that you just gained’t get eternally. I simply thought it was actually lovely and actually candy and actually humorous. It’s a really humorous guide, nevertheless it’s additionally form of melancholy. It offers with dying and it offers with, life decisions and various things like that. I beloved it. 

Elsie: Yeah, I believed it was lovely. The daddy-daughter relationship I believed was one of the best a part of the guide. The factor that the nerd inside me, the factor that I favored one of the best in regards to the guide is that I really like a guide inside a guide and this guide has, the character of her father has time journey books which can be like well-known after which it’s like made right into a TV present within the nineties and so there’s loads about that. For me, a guide set within the Nineteen Nineties is sort of a very millennial pleasure. I believe that it’s the right setting for like, that’s once I was a young person, so I actually loved that. However yeah, anytime there’s a guide inside a guide and you’re feeling prefer it’s an actual guide as a result of it’s so in there a lot, I believe that that’s actually attention-grabbing and like a pleasant contact. 

Emma: Yeah, I agree. I additionally like that, you realize, so Alice tries on a bunch of various futures as she makes small and generally massive modifications on her sixteenth birthday, and I form of favored that that wasn’t a very powerful factor. I really feel like what we’re imagined to take from the guide a bit bit was a very powerful factor for her was time together with her father and simply loving him and having that relationship and so it wasn’t as a lot discovering the right profession or having the right husband or residing in an enormous home or a small home, as a result of an enormous home is for loser wealthy individuals. It’s similar to she tries on all these various things and positive she has opinions about them and no matter, however I actually suppose the factor she goes again to again and again is, attempting to save lots of her dad. A few of ’em, she like convinces him to quit smoking, and a few of ’em, she’s like, you’ve gotta train extra, you gotta eat higher. She simply is looking for a solution to the place she will get again to her 40-year-old self, he gained’t be sick and within the hospital. On the finish of the guide, what we discover out is she’s tried all these various things however the cause he’s actually sick is that he time traveled an excessive amount of and apparently that does one thing to your physique on this specific guide, on this specific model of time journey it does one thing to you when you return again and again and over and he or she realizes that there’s no method that she will be able to change that as a result of, by the point she goes again, she’s 16, so he’s already time traveled loads, however then additionally she understands why he’s doing it, he retains going again, the identical cause she does to get extra time with these particular moments with those that he loves. He sees her born time and again and he or she form of realizes there are issues price dying for, there are issues extra essential. And you may’t actually take these issues away or ask somebody to. You simply form of see her reckon with, there’s we solely get a lot time, even when we get to time journey, there’s nonetheless solely a lot time that we get to spend with the those that we love, and we are able to’t essentially change the long run in order that there’ll be no dying and no ache. We simply have to understand what now we have. And I believe the scene the place she’s like, that is the final time I’m gonna time journey, and no matter occurs, I’m simply gonna settle for my future. She spends a whole lot of time together with her dad and asks him a number of questions on his life and his cousins. I believe she even information their dialog similar to attending to know him extra and issues that she by no means requested him she wished to ask him. I believe that that makes a whole lot of sense so far as, when you knew, all proper, that is the final time, and once I get again to the long run, in all probability my dad’s gonna be sick once more. And so how do I wanna spend today? And it’s like simply with them, simply speaking. 

Elsie: Properly, I hope if anybody learn it, I hope you loved it. I believed it was good too. I believe I used to be distracted a bit bit as a result of I used to be afraid that the endings the place it’s like the one life I would like are those I had at first. I used to be afraid it was gonna finish like that and so because it didn’t, I used to be very happy as a result of I didn’t need that ending.

Emma: I felt prefer it was fairly sure she wasn’t gonna try this, the writer, as a result of she references a whole lot of completely different, you realize, like Jenna Rink 13 happening 30. And all these completely different phrases, just like the ending, is both one thing like, oh, the one life I favored was my authentic, or, oh, I bought the husband and the youngsters and the profession precisely as I wished. And I believe she form of goes out of her solution to be like, yeah, she tried on all of these they usually had been all good. However the factor she actually wished was extra time together with her dad and he or she couldn’t have that as a result of that’s not how life works, even when you can time journey.

Elsie: Properly, I actually loved it. Anytime there’s a guide set within the nineties, you then wanna learn it. I’m down for it. 

Emma: Plus, I’m an enormous fan lady of this writer. I’ve learn lots of her different books and I simply thought it was actually enjoyable that she form of takes this little science fiction flip. I really like science fiction. Not that I learn tons of it, and it doesn’t completely really feel tremendous science fiction, however it’s, it clearly has time journey. Additionally it is like one of many fundamental characters, Leonard the daddy is a science fiction author and so there are a whole lot of references to his work and to the TV present. After which he writes one other guide in a number of the Futures Don of Time, and he talks about that. And so it’s undoubtedly in that world, and so I simply thought it was actually enjoyable to see this writer do one thing a bit bit completely different, however nonetheless very very similar to all of the issues that I really like about her writing had been on this guide plus a while journey, so it was similar to actually enjoyable, I beloved it. 

Elsie: Sure. Okay, so additionally I went to her bookstore final summer season in Brooklyn and it was the cutest, greatest bookstore I’ve ever been to. I went with simply Nova by ourselves for a mommy and daughter date and it was so particular. So yeah, if anybody is ever round Brooklyn, her bookstore’s referred to as Books are Magic and has the cutest free little library exterior that I believe I’ve ever seen in its very charming little spot with an amazing child part. 

Emma: I can’t wait to see it sometime. I haven’t been but, however I’d like to.

Elsie: Okay, effectively we nonetheless have a pair extra books. I believe we’re midway via our guide membership for this quarter. Alright, it’s time for a joke or a truth with Nova. That is Nova. Say hello. 

Nova: So hello, so one truth is, do you know that the practice from Harry Potter is definitely actual?

Elsie: An actual practice? The place is it on the earth? Have you learnt? 

Nova: I don’t bear in mind, however I did know. 

Elsie: Good. Okay, we’ll need to look that up. That’s an amazing truth. Thanks, Nova. 

Nova: Bye bye everybody.

Emma: Thanks a lot for listening. In case you’ve been having fun with our podcast, we’d actually respect a sort evaluate, these at all times assist. They assist us develop and we’ll be again subsequent week with a deep dive episode about purpose setting. We’re gonna be speaking in regards to the 12-week 12 months technique.