Episode #173: The 12 Week 12 months

This week, we’re doing a deep dive into a subject that we’ve referenced many occasions on this present—the guide The 12 Week Year. So if you’re within the temper to speak about purpose setting, then this episode is for you!

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Present Notes

Why a 12-week purpose is healthier:

-Lengthy deadlines can really feel very daunting and result in procrastination.

-You possibly can break up your objectives into seasons so that you do extra work on them when you will have extra time and fewer if you end up busier.

The vital elements of the 12-week 12 months:

-Making your imaginative and prescient (make certain it’s clear and measurable).

-Develop your plan (break up your purpose right into a sequence of small objectives).

-Accountability and maintaining rating

-Checking in

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Episode 173 Transcript:

Emma: You’re listening to The Stunning Mess Podcast, your cozy consolation pay attention. This week we’re doing one other deep dive into a subject that we’ve referenced many occasions on this present. It’s the guide, the 12 Week 12 months. So should you’re within the temper to speak about purpose setting, this episode is for you. And we’re additionally gonna speak a little bit bit concerning the Excessive 5 take a look at, which we’re gonna speak about our outcomes, Elsie’s outcomes, my outcomes, and how one can take the take a look at should you’re . 

Elsie: I’ll clarify the general idea of the 12 Week 12 months. So the 12 week 12 months is a purpose setting technique that goes by quarter. So 12 weeks is one quarter, proper? 

Emma: Yeah, it’s three months. 

Elsie: Yeah. So 12 weeks is each three months. The factor I really like about that is if you set your objectives only for the brand new 12 months, the start of every 12 months. To begin with, it may be like a procrastination factor the place you don’t have an excellent strong January, that sort of occurs to me yearly. You’re like, I didn’t actually obtain my purpose in January, so I suppose I’m simply not going to have an ideal 12 months this 12 months.

Emma: So I suppose I’ll simply wait, surrender for subsequent January.

Elsie: Proper. So if you do it each three months, you simply have 4 occasions the contemporary begins, 4 occasions extra contemporary begins than you do annually, which I really like. And the opposite factor is that almost all objectives that you simply need to obtain in a 12 months, you truly may obtain or make main headway in simply three months. You don’t really want a 12 months for many objectives, and even should you do want a 12 months, you may no less than do one a part of your purpose then do the following half. Part them off in your subsequent quarter? I believe that the twelfth week 12 months was actually, actually useful for me, it’s only a mindset shift. And I really like New 12 months’s objectives personally. I’m not a type of individuals who’s like, I’m not a decision particular person. I’m positively a decision particular person. I’ll all the time take an opportunity to set a purpose. . However I believe that that is simply extra sensible and it really works higher. And the opposite factor that they do loads within the 12 week 12 months is behavior monitoring. So there’s numerous journaling and numerous like monitoring of your progress. And that’s one thing that works actually good for my character as a result of I sort of a little bit little bit of a perfectionist factor the place if I don’t do one thing day by day, then I really feel like that I’ve already failed. And having the ability to see that doing one thing three to 5 occasions every week is in some methods higher as a result of it’s like doable as a substitute of unimaginable, and it’s simply nearly as good as doing one thing day by day. I believe that having requirements which you could by no means obtain might be one of many greatest enemies of success that many people have. Yeah, I discovered the guide. In case you haven’t learn it, I might positively advocate it, however you may in all probability additionally simply hearken to this episode and take like the principle excessive factors from it as a result of it’s fairly easy.

Emma: Yeah, it’s fairly easy. And it’s not an extended guide too. So the 12 week 12 months has like an internet site the place you can even join a publication and I’ve signed up for it years and years in the past. It’s sort of a type of newsletters the place they’ll ship like suggestions and tips right here and there or sort of like check-ins, issues like that. So anyway, I prefer it. If I don’t have time, I don’t learn ’em. But when I’ve time and I do learn them, I often discover them like useful. So anyway, when you have any curiosity in that, simply so you recognize that’s out there, it’s free. Okay. So I used to be simply gonna go forward and go over just a few issues which can be sort of just like the case for a brief deadline , as a result of that’s just about it. Is the 12 week years like, Hey, let’s have shorter deadlines as a substitute of this 12 months lengthy deadline. Sure, and I believe so many of those you sort of already hit on together with your synopsis of the 12 week 12 months, and I believe that’s sort of attention-grabbing. So I’ll undergo these sort of rapidly, however be at liberty to elaborate if you wish to, however yeah. Okay, so lengthy deadlines can actually simply result in numerous procrastination. If you recognize you will have a complete 12 months to do one thing and perhaps you don’t really want a 12 months to do it, then you definitely’ll find yourself procrastinating. So you find yourself being like, oh, I’ll get to it, after which come October you’re like, oh crap, I higher actually work on this purpose as a result of I’m right through the 12 months and you can have simply performed it rapidly after which moved on to your subsequent factor. Additionally, I believe lengthy deadlines can generally imply that our priorities or our life actually adjustments, and I don’t find out about you, however that’s the place I get actually hung up, is that if I’ve made a purpose after which my life actually does change and it makes extra sense for me to vary that purpose. Typically I get it in my head that I’m giving up or I failed, or I’m making an excuse to not end my purpose when the reality is that this purpose simply doesn’t serve me anymore as a result of I made it six months in the past and my life was totally different six months in the past. 

Elsie: I’ve this drawback actually dangerous, having the ability to settle for placing a pause button on objectives has been very useful for me. Earlier than that, I actually had the mindset that if I wasn’t doing all the things proper now, like if somebody says, how’s your pottery going? Proper now, I haven’t made pottery for greater than a month, I might really feel like panicked in like a failure. However now, that I’ve my pause button in place and I do know that like we’re displaying our home completely consistently and that’s why I can’t get my pottery stuff out as a lot as I wished to, I used to be leaving it out for months at a time. It’s simply not my productive season for that proper now and it is going to be once more sooner or later. There’s numerous good thoughts stuff, extra mindset stuff on this guide, particularly for individuals who will be like very arduous on your self or like an all or nothing character.

Emma: Yeah, I believe that it’s numerous mindset adjustments and actually constructive ones typically. As a result of, yeah, there’s simply numerous guilt that may come into purpose setting and I actually suppose that isn’t useful, so discovering methods to do away with that’s actually good. Okay, so one other factor, lengthy deadlines may also really feel actually daunting. So should you actually do make a purpose that’s gonna take you a 12 months to perform it, it’s in all probability a very large purpose. Except you break it down into small objectives, you’re in all probability gonna really feel overwhelmed, and that may even result in you giving up. So alongside these strains, I believe lengthy deadlines, once they’re performed efficiently, they actually simply are a sequence of brief deadlines. In case you’re your purpose is, like Elsie loves pottery, I’m attempting to put in writing a guide. So if I’m like, my purpose is to put in writing a guide, it’s like, okay, nicely the 1st step is like define, step two, chapter one, you recognize, nonetheless many chapters, it’s a sequence of small objectives alongside the way in which. And so I believe the 12 week 12 months in some methods is simply an acknowledgement that with a view to accomplish one thing large in a 12 months or 5 years or no matter, you’re on the deadline. You’re simply gonna have a bunch of small objectives alongside the way in which, and so that you would possibly as nicely simply consider it as, okay, nicely what’s my 12 week plan right here as a result of I received three months to do X, Y, Z. So this sort of ties into all of it, however I like quarterly objectives partly as a result of I believe, and I particularly suppose this for our work, there’s simply totally different elements of the 12 months. Possibly it’s as a result of I stay someplace with the 4 Seasons, perhaps it’s as a result of I’ve a child, and so like faculty and daycare will be totally different at totally different occasions and there’s holidays. I don’t know. However for me, I really feel like I can actually go loopy for work in Q1 and Q2 after which Q3 and this autumn there’s, there may be numerous work, however there’s much more like household time and holidays and issues like that. And I like having the ability to sort of consider issues in that method. So then I don’t really feel dangerous in let’s say this autumn, I’m not working fairly as a lot cuz I’ve numerous vacation stuff going if I sort of knew that and I actually busted my in Q1 and q2, now I’m like, oh, I’m on monitor. You understand, my objectives in This autumn should not as profession, they’re extra household cleansing the home, preparing for company, no matter, they’re extra in that vary. And I can have that 12 weeks be one thing that is sensible for my 12 months versus this 12 months lengthy purpose that has to embody all these totally different seasons, and it virtually doesn’t make sence.

Elsie: I believe that in This autumn for our enterprise, we sort of do have to enter survival mode yearly as a result of it’s often after we do virtually all of our advertisements, so that you don’t get to choose your content material as a lot as you do that time of 12 months. Yeah, I fully agree, which is like advertisements and household stuff.

Emma: Yeah. You’re like, what’s do and what’s occurring with my household? That’s all I’ve time for. You understand, it’s enjoyable, but it surely’s a sure season and I believe should you’re anticipating to do numerous deep work for the long run, you’re simply not gonna get to do it that quarter, I by no means do. So anyway, that’s what Q1’s for. So these are sort of my case for the brief deadline, so hopefully we’ve swayed you. I really feel like we in all probability did. 

Elsie: I believe everyone seems to be swayed, I positively am, I might by no means return. I believe that it’s very compelling. There’s actually nothing that’s higher about lengthy deadlines. No, there’s actually nothing.

Emma: No. Yeah, it’s an excellent technique. I agree. 

Elsie: Case’s closed. 

Emma: Case’s closed, so everyone’s on board, good. Okay, so then I simply wished to speak about, to me the vital elements of the 12 week 12 months, some issues he hits on within the guide and issues that may make it easier to achieve success as you’re making your objectives for the following 12 weeks. Okay, so the primary one is making your imaginative and prescient. How do you determine what to work on? How do you determine what objectives you need? Okay, so I believe some issues that assistance is now that you recognize that you’ve 12 weeks you is usually a little extra real looking about what you will get performed in 12 weeks. So that you’re not essentially going to be making a purpose that’s like, I’m going to learn 80 books and go to the health club 100 occasions or no matter.You simply know that that’s not gonna occur in 12 weeks. So now you may focus a little bit extra on what’s real looking to occur in these 12 weeks. And I might additionally say as you’re making your imaginative and prescient, your objectives, I love to do them in a bunch of various areas. So I wish to sort of have totally different buckets of like, right here’s my private life, which incorporates like hobbies and self care. And generally additionally like well being and wellness stuff, like going to the health club or no matter. Then I consider household, which is usually stuff with my son, but it surely’s different issues too. And I sort of put mates in there too, so if a buddy’s having a birthday or if a buddy’s going by a tough time, I wanna make time to be there for them or do one thing, and I take into consideration profession. So what am I attempting to perform these subsequent 12 weeks at work. Is there one thing that we’re constructing? Is there some sort of large deadline? Is there one thing that I’ve been wanting to begin and end? Or no less than begin, you recognize, once more, you solely have 12 weeks. So what are we getting performed in these 12 weeks, that sort of. So I wish to have totally different buckets that’s how I give it some thought. However one thing that I believe is actually vital if you’re making objectives is to be sure that it’s clear and measurable. I believe should you’re like, okay, on the finish of those 12 weeks, let’s say you’re engaged on some psychological well being stuff, you’ve had a tough time and also you’re attempting to work on that. Not that that’s essentially me, precisely and I’m simply utilizing myself right here’s an instance, let’s simply say. So should you make the purpose, I simply wanna really feel higher in 12 weeks. It’s like, nicely, Good purpose not precisely very clear. Not precisely very measurable but. What do you actually imply by that? And if it’s like, nicely, I wanna really feel higher, I wanna have much less days the place I’m feeling actually down. I need to really feel extra hopeful. So attempt to outline it a little bit bit extra, after which take into consideration what are some issues that you can measure in that as a result of measuring a sense is actually arduous, that will be very tough. However as a substitute take into consideration like, I need to make certain I am going to remedy each month. Okay, so then you definitely’re gonna go to remedy thrice within the subsequent 12 weeks, okay? That’s measurable. Nice, you can try this. I need to spend extra time with mates. I need to get some sunshine. I need to work on endorphin stuff. So perhaps that’s, I’m gonna do some cardio, I’m gonna go to the health club. I’m gonna begin operating no matter factor that you simply suppose is gonna assist. That is your objectives, however make them measurable issues which you could truly know should you achieved it or not, should you did it or not. As a result of if you get to the top of the 12 weeks, you’re gonna take inventory. You’re gonna say, oh, did I make it? Did I get all of the issues performed? And it’s not that you simply’re attempting to make this large to-do listing and simply undergo the motions. But when issues aren’t clear and measurable, then it may be actually arduous to know in case your like, should you get to the top of the 12 weeks and also you’re like, I don’t really feel higher, then you definitely’re gonna wanna know why. So is it that you simply did all of the issues and people didn’t assist and now you’ve gotta strive one thing else? Or is it that you simply didn’t do the issues, you bought sidetracked, you bought distracted, perhaps one thing occurred the place you couldn’t, one thing main modified in your life, that occurs. But when it issues aren’t clear and measurable, then it’s gonna be actually arduous to know why it labored or didn’t work. Okay, in order that’s sort of about making your imaginative and prescient. Then the following is when you sort of have your imaginative and prescient, develop your plan. So break up your purpose right into a sequence of small objectives, so issues for every month and even every week. And I believe if you’re serious about 12 weeks, that is a lot simpler than if you’re serious about a complete 12 months as a result of generally I’ll make a large listing that’s for the entire 12 months. Elsie and I do that loads for weblog posts, we’re like, right here’s a thousand weblog posts I wanna write as a result of we simply get enthusiastic about concepts. So we all the time have method too many concepts and I like to make an enormous listing like that. I believe it’s actually enjoyable, it makes me really feel excited. It makes me really feel like the long run’s stuffed with prospects. So I believe that’s an excellent train for these causes. But it surely comes to really executing, so this week for instance, I’m sick. So I had in the future the place I used to be principally off cuz I used to be simply actually sick and couldn’t actually work. So then it’s like, okay, I’m gonna take a look at my listing and I now have these 1000’s of concepts and solely 4 days to work, what may I get performed? Whereas as a substitute, should you had these 5 issues to do that week, is there one which it’s essential take off the listing since you have been sick. Then you definately simply get to maintain transferring ahead and it simply makes it loads quicker and simpler to comply with if you recognize the place you’re going after which you can also make faster changes versus this big, big grasp plan and also you get a barely off beam and now you’re tremendous off beam.

Elsie: Yeah, I agree. I believe it is a little little bit of an excellent time to say my post-it technique. Oh by the way in which, Podcast listeners attempt to diagnose me with h ADHD sort of loads. I’m like, I do know that I in all probability have ADHD so lI get it. Most likely lots of people have undiagnosed ADHD. So when you have any hassle with focusing, I believe the massive listing, like my weblog submit listing for the 12 months of what I wanna do, it’s stapled collectively, it’s three pages of typed textual content it like it’s not one thing that I would like to have a look at each week. So for me to have a look at a small listing of about 5 issues, like sufficiently small to suit on a post-it is what my mind can deal with after which I can select one thing to really work on. So I believe that should you’re an individual who will get simply overwhelmed by an extended listing, simply don’t take a look at the lengthy listing that always. Each few weeks you may go in and choose some issues from it and maintain your self on a small listing. I believe it’s only a trick you are able to do on your self that basically works. 

Emma: Sure, I agree and I believe too, it simply makes it the place everyone’s busy. All of us have limitations in our life, regardless of for what purpose. And I believe that for instance, once I’m writing a guide, as soon as I’ve the define, I instantly really feel method much less overwhelmed as a result of if I’ve two and a half to a few hours the place I can work on this as we speak, that’s all I’ve. I’m not gonna get to work on it extra perhaps this complete week,however then I take a look at my define and I’m like, oh, chapter 4 I really feel like I actually have a deal with on that. I’m gonna write that proper now, and I do it after which it’s performed. And it’s like that’s one thing that now simply moved my complete mission ahead in a significant method. Did I end the entire guide? No, however did I write a chapter? Sure I did within the time that I’ve. And so, and that’s, , you recognize, form of it’s like attempting to interrupt down these large issues that we wanna do in life into smaller chew dimension issues in order that we are able to truly get them performed. As a result of life is filled with numerous different issues which can be by no means gonna be on our listing, however we nonetheless should do them, and that’s simply what life’s like and it’s okay. Okay, so develop your plan and that can assist, break down your purpose into very small objectives. They are often weekly, month-to-month, they’ll even be every day. I might say too, don’t really feel like they should be so inflexible as a result of I believe should you do have a really, like each single day this should occur. That doesn’t go away you a lot house for getting sick, or in case your child will get sick or you will have a snow day or the web goes out at your home and you’ll’t work on the factor you have been gonna work on. It’s a must to go away some margin to let life occur, otherwise you’re actually gonna stress your self out, so try this too. 

Elsie: Yeah, concentrate on the massive wins for positive. So long as I can get this a part of my listing performed, then the remainder of it’s non-compulsory. I believe is an efficient method to think about it. 

Emma: Okay, after which the following factor I wanna speak about I believe varies a lot from individual to individual. So it’s accountability and maintaining rating. So that is one thing he talks about within the guide and there’s numerous alternative ways to do it. And I additionally suppose it actually relies on you and what works for you. So the entire level is to have mechanisms in place to assist maintain your self on monitor. Some persons are very internally motivated or externally motivated, or perhaps they name it intrinsically motivated, I’m undecided. However I’m an individual the place I don’t really want numerous exterior accountability. I’m very very like on the within, if I’ve determined I wanna do one thing that’s it for me, that’s sufficient. I do want methods to maintain myself on monitor. For instance, my husband, he has a buddy who he all the time goes to the health club with. It’s not that he by no means goes to the health club by himself, he does, but it surely helps him loads to have this buddy who he goes with. It’s simply form of an accountability factor. It simply implies that he is aware of his mates there. In that case, if he’s not there then he’s sort of letting him down or that’s in all probability too harsh of a wording, however you recognize, one thing alongside these strains. Whereas me, I used to be attempting to get again into the health club this 12 months for my psychological well being causes, and so I used to be contemplating becoming a member of this new health club the place all my mates go. I went as soon as and it was actually enjoyable to see everybody. It sort of dawned on me thatI’m simply not very externally motivated. I’m a really inner, intrinsically motivated particular person, so I truly don’t really want somebody there. I simply must have it in my thoughts that that is vital to me and I must have purchased into the rationale why, and for me that’s ok. And as soon as I’ve that, then I simply should sort of have my mechanisms to maintain myself on monitor. For me, I’m a little bit bit extra of a reward system particular person. I believe you’re like this too, Elsie. I wish to have a little bit reward on the finish of an enormous purpose, like as soon as I obtain it then I’m like, oh, I’m shopping for myself this in all probability new jumpsuit or no matter it’s. I’m doing one thing, I’m taking myself out to get my nails performed, no matter. I’m a little bit extra of a rewards particular person and I wish to set these for myself. However yeah, you may be an individual who you actually wish to work with others, perhaps you want engaged on groups. Possibly you want an accountability accomplice for sure objectives. These are nice instruments and if that’s one thing that helps you, it is best to do it. However they’re not essentially for me and I don’t actually suppose they’re for you both,Elise. That’s why we thrive a lot at working alone and being alone loads, however I do like reward programs. 

Elsie: I like rewards too and for me I believe you’re a pure finisher and I’m not. So for me, I like to search out one thing to assist me get previous the half the place I failed earlier than, which is often, relying on what kind of mission, it’s often the center or round like day 10 when issues get boring. The purpose the place issues get boring, the entire novelty is worn off is often arduous for me to get previous. I’m very into beginning one thing. In my life I’ve in all probability began tons of of issues that I did for in the future, which is actually humorous. So, beginning is like my happiest level after which the remainder of it I’ve to maintain myself by some means externally motivated. A rewards system is actually good for me. I believe that I don’t wanna depend on different folks as a result of that’s simply not real looking for my life-style. So I believe I just like the little rewards. Additionally, the opposite factor I actually like is charts the place you colour in one thing for both every day or every milestone, nonetheless the chart goes. However I actually just like the coloring in charts are very useful for me as a result of when you get to a sure level, it’s like a little bit bit addictive to maintain going and similar to get to that fully full level. However yeah, I believe that the factor I appreciated from the 12 12 months was the half about ranking your self. I believe it’s a little bit bizarre, however I’ve performed it earlier than and I really feel like I’m often a little bit bit harsh. But it surely doesn’t actually matter should you’re harsh or beneficiant, so long as you’re constant, sort of doesn’t matter. It’s only a option to maintain your self attempting to do higher. And I do suppose that having your personal accountability is so a lot better than attempting to get another person to carry you accountable. I’ve by no means discovered one other particular person holding me accountable to be as efficient and constant as one thing I may do myself.

Emma: I additionally suppose like I simply have an actual, I don’t know a great way to say this, however I don’t actually care what different folks suppose that a lot, if I care what you suppose, then I do and if I don’t, I don’t. That’s simply what I’ve all the time been like. And I believe at occasions in my life that served me very well and at different occasions in my life, it’s made it the place I’ve been sort of remoted. But it surely’s simply what I’m like. It doesn’t inspire for me as a result of if I’ve determined that’s not my purpose and my accountability accomplice or no matter was like we’re nonetheless doing this. I’d be like, no, I’m not and I’m similar to not motivated by exterior forces. However on the ranking factor, I believe it’s a little bit bizarre too, however one factor I like about it’s I do suppose it permits extra. I want a category that’s like, you will get an A or you will get an F and all the things in between. I believe cross fail is sort of nerve-wracking a little bit bit. So I like that in, no less than in my world, and ranking myself, I can provide myself like a strong B minus and be like, Hey, it’s not so dangerous, however you can do higher, I like that. So then it feels such as you’re not a failure. You didn’t fail, however you can do some higher. You didn’t get an A and I, I like that as a result of then it’s like, all proper, I’m gonna maintain attempting, I’m not gonna surrender on this. However I see that there’s some areas the place I can enhance considerably. So I like issues which have numerous scale or numerous grey. I don’t do as nicely in like black and white conditions, I suppose. After which actually the very last thing that I wished to speak about with 12 week 12 months was a check-in, the check-in time, which is week 13, so on the finish of your 12 weeks, it’s time to verify in. So a pair issues to consider with that. Clearly, It’s good to only take time on the finish of this timeframe or any form of purpose setting factor to see how you probably did to fee your self to only verify in as a result of I believe numerous occasions, no less than for me, perhaps this comes pure for others, however for me, I’m a really ahead transferring particular person. I really feel like I can end one thing and I don’t even actually speak about it, and it doesn’t even actually register and I’ll simply maintain transferring to the following purpose. After which I’ll see a buddy who I haven’t seen in a pair months and they are often like, Hey, did you end writing that novel you have been engaged on? And I’m like, oh yeah, I did. Yeah, that was enjoyable, I’m engaged on this now. That’s what I’m like generally and I believe it’s cool that you’ve numerous objectives in life, however you didn’t actually take any time to, one, have fun when you have success, so try this, don’t make that mistake. Rejoice when you will have successes, as a result of that’s what life needs to be stuffed with is getting higher and higher at purpose setting, at no matter it’s that you simply’re desirous to do together with your time. So apart from celebrating your successes, I additionally suppose checking in is an efficient time, particularly should you’re new to the 12 week 12 months to only sort of seeing the way it went. As a result of right here’s the factor, you would possibly get to the top of 12 weeks and understand, wow, I made method too large of objectives, so I epically failed didn’t get them performed, and never as a result of I didn’t strive actually arduous however as a result of they have been too large, they have been an excessive amount of for 12 weeks, and that’s okay, you don’t must really feel dangerous about that. You simply want to regulate for the following 12 weeks. It’s essential be extra real looking and you can additionally get to the top of your 12 weeks and be like, that was sort of straightforward. I used to be sort of performed six weeks by and it’s like you can do extra. You may add extra to your 12 week, to your quarter purpose listing as a result of yours have been too straightforward and that’s okay too however now it’s time to readjust. So long as you’re taking inventory of how the final quarter went, you’re gonna be capable to higher make objectives for the following 12 weeks. And you can even sort of see how did life change? How do you know my objectives change or something like that. I additionally had this second, so this occurred to me in January of this 12 months I received to the top of the month and I used to be feeling actually down as a result of I had been actually sick. I used to be sick for like two strong weeks. I’ve a toddler, so I’m sick lot, simply form of a part of it. It’s winter, we additionally had some snow days, which was actually enjoyable, but it surely sort of received me off of a few of my objectives of attending to the health club and strolling extra for my psychological well being. However what I did was I used to be feeling actually down after which I sort of checked out my to-do listing that I sustain on my bulletin board in my workplace and it has all my work stuff and I additionally put my private issues on there, simply because I’ve it multi functional place and it’s greater than a post-it like Elsie was speaking about but it surely’s sufficiently small that I can take a look at it and one fast look and so I like that it retains me on monitor and I spotlight it, in order that’s my coloring method of seeing what I received. .And so I used to be taking a look at it and I noticed that like 90% of it was highlighted. Like I nonetheless received loads performed in January, despite the fact that I felt actually crappy and I used to be actually sick and I had much more days off than I used to be sort of planning on as a result of we had snow days. However I noticed like, Hey, truly I’m glad I’m taking this second to take inventory, as a result of truly this month went very well. I received loads performed once I had time to work, I actually busted out and once I didn’t get to work as a result of I used to be sick or we had a snow day, I rested or I performed with my son cuz he was residence and that was cool too, that was needed, the resting. Enjoying together with your son’s extra enjoyable than needed, it’s not the phrase I might use, it’s far more enjoyable than needed. It’s additionally needed, but it surely’s not identical. 

Elsie: It’s a part of life proper now, for positive. 

Emma: The variety of occasions I’ve watched the vehicles films this month is simply too many occasions, however love you Lightning McQueen. Anyway, so I believe generally having this check-in time, if nothing else, it will possibly sort of drive you to comprehend that you simply did a greater job than perhaps you have been pondering, or no less than that’s what I discover occurs for me loads is I believe I’ve these grand concepts and I truly get loads performed, but it surely doesn’t all the time really feel so nice within the second. So when you will have these occasions the place you let your self verify in, perhaps you do want to regulate. Possibly issues went terribly and it’s essential make some changes, however perhaps additionally issues are higher than you suppose and also you’re simply sort of arduous on your self, which is what I do.

Elsie: My first month went terribly. Yeah, you do want to regulate.

Emma: That’s okay, that’s high-quality too. It’s not the top of the world to regulate. Anything? Some other ideas you wished to share concerning the 12 week 12 months? 

Elsie: Yeah. I believe if you don’t make your objectives, I might say I don’t make my objectives like more often than not, and I believe that’s regular, particularly when numerous the objectives are one thing large that you simply’ve by no means performed earlier than otherwise you generally tend of placing too many on every listing. So I believe for the following time, if you’re a purpose repeater like me, the place you’re like, I didn’t make that, however I’m gonna strive once more. Then I believe making some kind of edit to attempt to tackle the ache level. So for myself, my ache level is often it’s arduous to get began or it’s arduous to maintain going as soon as it will get boring, that are each totally different but it surely’s gonna occur again and again and over for the remainder of my life since you solely get one mind. So I believe discovering little methods to inspire your self previous your ache factors, I believe will be actually good when. You’re in all probability gonna have numerous the identical objectives, like again and again all through your years or comparable no less than. So it’s one thing you may positively get higher at, like tricking your personal mind and placing your self in your absolute best place for fulfillment. I believe that no matter you need to do for me, the little rewards are good, the little charts, however do no matter you need to do to offer your self that absolute best probability.

Emma: I believe that needs to be a T-shirt, you solely get one mind. 

Elsie: It’s true. There’s so many occasions I evaluate myself to Emma as a result of Emma is sort of a finisher in any respect prices. She finishes all the things and I don’t end in all probability like a tenth of the issues that you simply do, however I don’t have an opportunity to stay life together with your mind. So, it’s prefer it doesn’t actually matter, it’s an entire waste of time principally to match myself to somebody who has totally different strategies. So the one strategies that I can enhance upon are those that work for me. So yeah, I believe simply discover the issues that inspire you and actually use these strategies.

Emma: Yeah, I do suppose there’s not numerous worth in evaluating your self typically, however evaluating your mind since we’re on that matter to different folks as a result of it’s such as you’re not gonna be that particular person and doubtless, there’s truly numerous strengths to being your self. There’s tons of issues that I want I used to be like, you extra, however I’m not and I’m not gonna be, so I can simply admire them about you and I’ll simply worth the issues about me. Which I do suppose one in every of my issues is I do like to complete issues and I like that about myself. There’s different occasions I want I used to be a little bit extra of a perfectionist, however I’m not and there’s no probability of it. So I simply should know that about myself and simply drive myself to decelerate. Or redo one thing if it must be redone and be extra trustworthy about that. As a result of I’m simply not a perfectionist and I believe that that’s okay, however it will possibly maintain again my work from being higher than I believe it might be at occasions. So anyway. Yep, we’re who we’re. Settle for it and develop. 

Elsie: For positive. I believe you actually should embrace what your pure strengths and weaknesses are, after which use this to get a little bit bit extra performed. However I felt prefer it made an enormous distinction for me. I really like the possibility to have extra contemporary begins and yeah, I actually don’t see why beginning an enormous purpose solely each January, it doesn’t even make sense as a result of January just isn’t even the very best month. It’s positively not my prime for like something. And it’s like additionally for folks like us with little children, it’s such as you’re recovering from the hangover of placing on a magical vacation on your children. Which is loads if your private home loads. 

Emma: I believe too, like most individuals I believe, determine with this like the start a part of any mission and the purpose setting time is actually enjoyable. It’s thrilling cuz it’s the dreaming half, such as you’re dreaming of all these belongings you wanna do and so that you get to try this 4 occasions a 12 months as a substitute of only one time a 12 months should you do the 12 week 12 months. And that’s, I believe, extra enjoyable. It’s thrice as enjoyable, it’s far more enjoyable. Okay, so I believe that’s about it on that. The subsequent factor I wished to speak about was the excessive 5 take a look at. So if folks haven’t heard of this perhaps simply inform ’em like the way you heard of it, since you despatched it to me, you have been like, take this take a look at, I used to be like, okay. So how did you even hear about it? It’s sort of like energy finder, but it surely’s not, I don’t know. 

Elsie: So a listener requested that we do like energy finder take a look at and I discovered this take a look at simply by Googling free energy finder take a look at. What’s the precise web site? 

Emma: It’s excessive 5 take a look at.com.

Elsie: And it was with a quantity 5, excessive quantity 5. take a look at.com. Okay, so we did this, these checks, it’s free. I couldn’t get my husband to do it, however I received Emma to do it. So , that was half of a win. It provides you a prime 5 strengths and Emma and I had like a number of of the identical strengths which I used to be not anticipating, however then it did make numerous sense. After which those which can be totally different additionally make numerous sense. So anyway, ought to we learn what our strengths have been? My prime one is Catalyst, my second one is Optimist, my third is Filo Math, which suggests somebody who likes to study. The subsequent one is Thinker, and the final one is timekeeper. This was actually attention-grabbing, I used to be not stunned that I had optimist up actually excessive. I do suppose that’s one in every of my strengths and my complete key to success of my complete life is like believing you recognize, just like the woman from TikTok who says, How arduous can or not it’s syndrome, I sort of have that and I’ve all the time felt that I may do something that I need to do in life. And I believe it’s a method my mind was born. After which a love of studying I positively suppose that’s one thing we share. That one’s in your listing too, proper? Yeah. F 

Emma: Yeah Filo math was my primary.

Elsie: Have been there every other ones that we have been sharing? Thinker? That is sensible too after which timekeeper. This one was attention-grabbing as a result of it mentioned that I principally appreciated to race myself, which is true. My solely method of getting issues performed, it’s virtually like a little bit child if you set the timer for them to wash their room, that’s nonetheless how I’m to this present day about any purpose. If I’m not on an aggressive deadline, I’m in all probability not even engaged on it. In order that’s like my complete technique.

Emma: I used to be filo math, timekeeper, focus skilled, deliverer, and thinker. Focus. 

Elsie: Focus Skilled is like the right option to describe you as a result of I don’t suppose very many individuals would relate with how nicely you focus since you similar to don’t get in your cellphone. You simply don’t have a distractable mind the way in which that most individuals do. 

Emma: Nicely, I don’t know if that’s wholly true. I positively get on my cellphone generally. However Yeah, I do suppose one in every of my strengths is I can concentrate on issues. I all the time chalk it as much as that we needed to sit by so many boring sermons rising up, and I simply received actually good at focusing throughout something. 

Elsie: We have been educated in highschool, throughout our church years, we have been educated to be observe takers through the sermons that was like principally the way in which that you simply present that you simply’re being well mannered and listening and I do suppose that was an especially good behavior of studying get probably the most out. Sermons are no less than in our church, have been extraordinarily boring. I believe we received probably the most out of it that we may, no less than you may bear in mind, like one thing from what your favourite half was and issues like that. 

Emma: Yeah, mine additionally was love of studying.

Elsie: Wait, learn them once more. 

Emma: Principally do filo math, which once more, I don’t know pronounce that both. That’s what I’m gonna go together with filo Math, timekeeper, focus skilled, deliverer and thinker and I believe deliverer was not in your listing. 

Elsie: Deliverer, I believe for this reason we’re such an excellent workforce collectively as a result of I’ve just like the catalyst and the optimist which can be totally different and you’ve got deliverer and focus skilled which can be totally different and I believe that that’s like loads to supply one another. 

Emma: Yeah. So I believe you’re like, how arduous can or not it’s? And I’m like, nicely, I suppose we’ll simply end

Elsie: I like it. Yeah, I hope that a few of you’re taking it. I believe it was extraordinarily correct and attention-grabbing. I’m gonna push my husband once more to take it as a result of I simply wanna perceive that little mind. I want I may push, mine’s a screenshot, so I can’t push on what catalyst means. I want I may learn what it meant, perhaps I’ll look it up actual quick. It means you can not wait to begin your mission, you begin it straight away, you like beginning. That sounds proper. 

Emma: You’re keen on beginning and I really like ending, so we’re a terrific workforce. I additionally thought it was humorous. So it sort of has 4 totally different energy households and your issues will be in any of those 4 households and the households are pondering, doing, feeling, and motivating and all of mine are within the pondering and doing. So I’ve no strengths in feeling or motivating, so if you’d like somebody who can inspire you, I’m not that particular person. And if you’d like somebody who has numerous emotions, I suppose I’m not that particular person both. I don’t know. Clearly I do have numerous emotions, however I don’t know I simply thought that was sort of humorous. I do suppose once I’m working or once I’m attempting to perform, which doesn’t should be work associated like profession, it might be no matter. I do suppose I’m very, let’s do issues like I’ve a listing. Even in being a mother, it’s not that I don’t inform Oscar how a lot I really like him or how proud I’m of him, I inform him each single day how proud I’m of him. However I additionally suppose very a lot by way of, okay, it’s Saturday, what are we going to do? We’re going to go get a donut. Don suppose that’s what we’re going to do.

Elsie: I don’t suppose that’s what it means although, I don’t suppose it implies that you’re not an emotive particular person.I’ll cease in the midst of a mission simply to cry and also you don’t try this. You understand what I imply? 

Emma: Yeah. I imply, I would truthfully, however I believe it’s extra of, how do you. I don’t know clarify this. How do you want undergo life? As a result of to me, it’s not that I don’t emote or have emotions on issues, I simply don’t suppose by way of my emotions so far as like, what am I going to perform this weekend? Or what’s my life about? I don’t actually suppose by way of emotions or I consider it extra in what I’m gonna do and attain. I don’t know, however I believe lots of people try this, so I’m probably not positive. I simply thought it was humorous that each one of mine have been very concentrated. I’d like to satisfy an individual who has one energy in every of the 4 households, they usually’re this like completely balanced particular person, however in all probability that’s probably not even the way it works. 

Elsie: Yeah, mine has 4 colours. 

Emma: Oh, you’re a balanced particular person then. 

Elsie: However I don’t really feel balanced both. I don’t really feel extra balanced than you.

Emma: Mine is like all two colours, not one of the different two . 

Elsie: Nicely, I’m grateful on your strengths and I believe it’s form of like Enneagram or something. It’s similar to good to know. So that you could perceive different folks higher. So I believe it’s very useful. 

Emma: Sure, I like something that helps you perceive your self or the world higher. I don’t actually like issues that put us in bins. I wish to make jokes about being a sure method or no matter, however to me that’s simply me being a little bit bit self-deprecating for enjoyable. I truly don’t actually view it that method, I believe it’s only a instrument for self enhance as a result of I don’t have strengths in these different two areas, I can’t be that method. I don’t truly imagine that. I wish to say a joke about it however that’s not truly my perception. 

Elsie: Yeah. No, I don’t both. I simply know I don’t take pleasure in ending, however I nonetheless know that I can, and I believe that that’s simply the one distinction. It’s like, for positive I can do it, you recognize?

Emma: Yeah. How arduous can or not it’s? Prefer it’s arduous, isn’t that what Elwood says? Yeah. I received into Harvard, prefer it’s arduous. 

Elsie: Yeah. I wanna watch Legally Blonde, let’s try this film. 

Emma: Yeah, we must always try this for every week we watch. It’s an excellent one. 

Elsie: Okay, now it’s time for everybody’s favourite, a joker a reality with Nova. Right here’s Nova. 

Nova: A joke is, what’s a polar bear within the rain? A drizzly bear? 

Elsie: Oh, I like that one. That’s an excellent joke. Okay, thanks Nova. 

Nova: Bye everybody. 

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